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03 | Friend or Foe: Why is it so crucial to be supported when you're not protected by your comfort zone?

Season 1, Ep. 3
Welcome to Reclaiming Your Identity. I’m your host, Joanne Carrighar-Kearns, and I work with people to do exactly this. On this podcast, I’ll share with you how I figured out who I really am, & how I’ve learned my success from the success of others. You’ll learn how to value unpleasant experiences as a place of reference, rather than a place of residence, & how to focus on what you can control, rather than what you can't.




Today, I’m going to discuss how to deal with unhelpful friends and family who try to discourage you from bettering yourself, & who can sometimes make you feel guilty for wanting to succeed.




I’d like you to think about your own friends and family who are guilty of this, & then to figure out if there is anyone that you need to start loving from a distance.




Tune in and listen to the third episode of Reclaiming your Identity. It's time for you to figure out who you really are, instead of who you think you're supposed to be. It's time for you to reclaim your identity.




In this episode, you will learn:



  • How hiring a coach helped me (02:47)


  • Dealing with resistance from other people (04:30)


  • The importance of being with like-minded people (08:32)


  • The unhelpful protection of the comfort zone (15:40)


  • How I give you tailor-made support from the world class experts (18:07)




Let’s connect!





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