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Episode 114 - Finding My Bliss - With Raquel Deserbelles Obrien - Part 1

Season 2, Ep. 114

Listening to Raquel speak is nothing short of inspiring. So if you want to be inspired by a very candid discussion that touches on being sexually abused as a child by a family member, family trauma, navigating creating a podcast on that very trauma while trying to understand and heal, and the many lessons learned in between please join us! This is part 1 of 2, so tune in next week for the final episode with Raquel.


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