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Living With ADHD at 45: Why Masking Leaves Me Exhausted

Season 10, Ep. 5

Wendy “wo0” Gannon is an award-winning personal photographer, speaker and founder of the Female Five Million movement - and she’s proudly a chaotic ADHD head.


In this deeply honest conversation, Wendy opens up about being diagnosed with ADHD at 45 and what it truly felt like to go decades without a name for her experience.


She talks about the exhaustion of masking - constantly performing, softening herself, and trying to fit the expectations of the world while silently struggling inside. From childhood and early career to building her business and speaking on stages, she reflects on how masking shaped her life and the relief (and fear) that came with finally dropping the act.


This episode explores the emotional cost of masking, the power of showing up as your genuine self, and how embracing neurodiversity has influenced Wendy’s work helping founders show up authentically online.


If you’ve ever felt worn out by simply being you, this conversation will resonate.

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