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Jacqueline Kelly : What is Matrescence?

Topics covered : Motherhood, grief, loss of identity, birth trauma, breastfeeding, shedding shame, celebrity culture, awakening, humanity.


In this episode I speak to Matrescence coach Jacqueline Kelly.

She lives in Dublin with her husband Stuart and their two children Fionn and Molly.

And in this conversation she talks to us about Motherhood, her own personal experience of it, the loss of her own mother and coming to terms with her absence and the importance of recognising all mothers.

At times it’s a challenging conversation as we deal with topics such as birth trauma, breastfeeding and grief so please be aware before you listen.


Resources :

Alexandra Sacks on Matrescence…

A new way to think about the transition to motherhood | Alexandra Sacks - YouTube

The article I wrote sharing my own struggles with breastfeeding…

Síle Seoige: My first weeks with Cathal... and why I stopped breastfeeding - Her.ie

Pals for Palestine…

(@palsforpalestine_ireland) • Instagram photos and videos


And to connect with Jac, go to…

BRAVE Hearts - Our Brave Hearts

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