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Ready To Be Real by Síle Seoige
Adolescence : Boundaries and Connection
For this week's Real Take, I'm dipping into the Ready to Be Real archive and sharing an extract from a conversation I had with psychotherapist Richard Hogan in April 2025.
Richard specialises in working with families and is the author of two brilliant books, Parenting the Screenager and Home Is Where the Start Is. He's also a father of three daughters, so he brings both his professional knowledge and personal experience to the conversation.
As a Mom of a nine-year-old boy and an almost five-year-old girl, this is a subject that's very close to my heart. So far, we've managed to avoid introducing personal smart devices (to our kids!) in our home, but I'm very conscious that there are challenges ahead as our children get older.
In this extract, Richard talks about adolescence, the changes children experience as they grow, and the importance of maintaining a strong connection with them through those years.
He explains why boundaries are so important, shares some lovely personal stories about parenting his own daughters, and talks about helping children navigate friendships and the inevitable challenges of growing up.
One of the things that really stayed with me was his advice around encouraging children to have wide friendship circles and plenty of interests and activities outside the online world. It's such an important reminder of the value of real-world connection and giving our children a strong foundation as they grow.
Following on from my recent conversation with Mick Moran of Hotline.ie about protecting our children online, I thought this was a particularly relevant conversation to revisit.
Richard Hogan: Adolescence – Preteen and Teenager (April 2025)
In the full conversation, we explore adolescence and the preteen years in much greater detail, including communication, parenting boundaries, friendships, healthy habits, masculinity, online influences, pornography and the importance of creating a safe and supportive home environment.
Also highly recommendedMick Moran: Protecting Our Children Online (October 2026)
More conversations from the Ready to Be Real archiveRichard Hogan: Anxiety in Kids and Teenagers (January 2024)
Debbie Cullinane: Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist (March 2024)
Useful resources for parentsCyberSafeKids
An Irish charity offering research, education and practical advice to help children and parents navigate the online world more safely.
Smartphone Free Childhood Ireland
A parent-led movement supporting families and school communities who want to delay access to smartphones and social media.
Webwise
Ireland's online safety awareness centre, offering information and advice for parents, teachers and young people.
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Mick Moran : Protecting Our Children Online
01:20:58|Topics covered: Online safety, childhood, parenting, smartphones, social media, gaming, Roblox, algorithms, manipulation, digital autonomy, grooming, sextortion, exploitation, CSAM, pornography, harmful content, suicide, sharenting, digital literacy, boundaries, notifications, personal responsibility, screen time, peer pressure, parental responsibility, online reporting.CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes discussions of child sexual abuse material, sexual exploitation, grooming, sextortion, pornography, suicide and other disturbing subjects. It is intended for adult listeners and is not suitable for children.My guest in this episode is Mick Moran, CEO of Hotline.ie, Ireland's national reporting centre for suspected illegal online content, particularly child sexual abuse material (CSAM).He spent 34 years in An Garda Síochána before joining Hotline.ie.Recorded during the summer of 2026, this is a frank and, at times, deeply unsettling conversation about the online world we're living in and what it means for our children.A significant part of our conversation focuses on parenting. When should children get their first smartphone? Are we putting them at a disadvantage by delaying access to them?This isn't about judging parents or pretending there are easy answers. As a mother of two young kids, I'm very aware that many of these decisions are ahead of me too.And if this episode resonated with you, I suggest you listen to my conversations with psychotherapist Richard Hogan, in particular the one on Adolescence. Resources and supportHotline.ie - Irish Internet HotlineIreland's national reporting centre where members of the public can securely, anonymously and confidentially report suspected illegal online content, especially child sexual abuse material.https://hotline.ieCyberSafeKidsAn Irish charity providing research, education and practical online safety resources for children, parents and schools.https://www.cybersafekids.ieSmartphone Free Childhood IrelandA parent-led movement supporting families and school communities who want to delay children's access to smartphones and social media.https://smartphonefree.ieWebwiseIreland's online safety awareness centre, offering information and educational resources on social media, gaming, cyberbullying, privacy and digital wellbeing.https://www.webwise.ieISPCC / ChildlineConfidential support for children and young people, including those affected by harmful online experiences.https://www.ispcc.iehttps://www.childline.ieChildline: 1800 66 66 66 (24-hour support).National Parents CouncilAdvice, education and support for parents, including guidance on children's online safety and wellbeing.https://www.npc.ieIrish Safer Internet CentreHotline.ie is a member of the Irish Safer Internet Centre alongside Webwise, ISPCC Childline and the National Parents Council.https://hotline.ie/safer-internet-centre/The 4 Cs of online riskMick refers to the CO:RE 4 Cs framework, which identifies four broad categories of online risk to children:Content - Exposure to potentially harmful or inappropriate online material.Contact - Harmful interactions with others online, including grooming and unwanted contact.Conduct - Harmful online behaviour involving children, including cyberbullying, harassment and harmful peer interactions.Contract - Commercial and transactional risks, including scams, fraud, data exploitation and manipulative marketing.Books mentioned :The Anxious Generation - Jonathan HaidtExplores the impact of smartphones, social media and changes in childhood on young people's mental health and development.The Amazing Generation - Jonathan Haidt and Catherine PriceA companion book aimed at children aged approximately 9-12, encouraging healthier relationships with technology and more freedom, connection and adventure in the real world.
Majella O'Donnell: My Ten Weeks in a Psychiatric Hospital
18:25|In this week's Real Take, Majella O'Donnell shares her personal experience of the ten weeks she spent as an inpatient in St John of God Hospital in 2024, when she became seriously unwell with depression.She speaks about the fear and vulnerability she experienced, and she also discusses medication, treatment and the practical tools she learned during her time in hospital, including recognising anxiety, understanding her body's fight-or-flight response and finding ways to support herself.This is just one part of a much wider conversation. In the full episode....Majella O'Donnell: Completely Herself, we also explore her childhood, her first marriage, motherhood, meeting Daniel and their life together, and how she continues to manage her mental health today.Support and resourcesIf you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out. You don't have to face it alone. Your GP is a good place to start, and the following organisations offer support in Ireland.AwareSupport and information for people experiencing depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder, and for their loved ones.Freephone: 1800 80 48 48Available daily, 10am–10pmwww.aware.ieSamaritansConfidential, non-judgemental emotional support, available 24 hours a day.Freephone: 116 123www.samaritans.ieText About ItFree, confidential text support, available 24/7.Text HELLO to 50808www.textaboutit.iePietaSupport for people experiencing suicidal thoughts or self-harm, and those affected by suicide.24-hour crisis helpline: 1800 247 247Text HELP to 51444 (standard message rates apply)www.pieta.ieHSE Mental Health ServicesInformation about mental health difficulties, treatment options and accessing support.www2.hse.ie/mental-health/If you need urgent help :Contact your GP or out-of-hours GP service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 112 or 999 or attend your nearest Emergency Department.A note about medication and treatment :Majella shares her own experience of psychiatric care, including changes to medication during her hospital stay. This conversation reflects her personal experience and is not intended as medical advice. Please speak to your GP or treating clinician before making any changes to prescribed medication.
Majella O’Donnell: Completely Herself
01:34:26|Topics covered: Childhood, family, fear and safety, motherhood, relationships, depression, psychiatric care, medication, ADHD, breast cancer, mental health, identity, vulnerability, recovery, love, marriage and life with Daniel.My guest in this episode is mental health advocate and TV personality Majella O’Donnell, in what is her very first podcast conversation.Majella is a mother of two and grandmother of four, and she has been married to singer Daniel O’Donnell for almost 24 years.In this conversation, Majella speaks with extraordinary honesty about her life and, in particular, her experience of living with depression.She reflects on her childhood and in particular her relationship with her father, describing an upbringing in which she lived with fear and, as she now understands it, in an almost constant state of fight or flight.We talk about motherhood and the times she struggled, relationships, her cancer diagnosis, and the love, humour and independence at the heart of her marriage to Daniel.At the centre of our conversation is the severe depression Majella experienced and the ten weeks she spent as an inpatient in St John of God Hospital in 2024.She describes what it felt like when depression took away her ability to function and make even the simplest decisions and what led her to seek professional help.Majella also speaks openly about medication and the process, under medical care, of changing treatment and eventually finding a combination that worked for her.One of the striking things about her experience is that depression didn't only appear when life was difficult. She talks about becoming unwell at a time when she was happy, loved and grateful for the life she had...a powerful reminder that mental illness doesn't always have an obvious explanation.Today, Majella is in a much better place. She has a greater understanding of herself and what she needs to protect her mental health, and she is using her own experience to encourage more honest conversations about depression.This is a deeply personal conversation about childhood, fear, love, illness, identity, getting help and finding your way back to yourself.And above all, it's Majella...completely herself.A note on this episode :Majella discusses her personal experience of antidepressant medication. This is one person's lived experience and should not be taken as medical advice. If you have questions or concerns about your own medication or treatment, please speak to your GP, psychiatrist or another appropriately qualified healthcare professional. Do not stop or change prescribed medication without medical guidance.Support and resources :If anything discussed in this episode affects you, support is available.Samaritans IrelandFreephone 116 123, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.Email: jo@samaritans.ieConfidential, non-judgemental emotional support for anyone who is struggling to cope.Text About ItFree-text HELLO to 50808, 24 hours a day.A free, anonymous text service for anyone experiencing a mental health or emotional crisis.PietaFreephone 1800 247 247, 24 hours a day.Text HELP to 51444. Standard message rates may apply.Support for people experiencing suicidal thoughts or self-harm, and for those bereaved by suicide.AwareFreephone 1800 80 48 48, seven days a week, 10am-10pm.Information and support for people experiencing depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and other mood-related difficulties, as well as family and friends.HSE - Your Mental HealthFor information on mental health services and supports in Ireland, contact the Your Mental Health information line on 1800 111 888 or speak to your GP.If you or someone else is in immediate danger or needs emergency medical assistance, call 112 or 999 or go to your nearest Emergency Department.Please reach out. You don't have to struggle alone.
Harrison Gardner: Have a Backup
06:05|In this short extract from my conversation with eco-builder and author Harrison Gardner, he talks about the systems we rely on every day, why convenience so often wins, and the value of having a backup when the systems we take for granted, don't work as expected. The full conversation, Harrison Gardner: How Prepared Are You?, is available now wherever you get your podcasts.
Harrison Gardner : Are you prepared?
01:09:14|Topics covered : Housing, shelter, self-building, self-sufficiency, security, agency, sustainability, consumerism, capitalism, convenience, our reliance on systems, power cuts, extreme weather, energy, practical skills, DIY, community, climate change, preparedness and taking back control.Harrison Gardner is an eco-builder, author and broadcaster who lives in Co. Clare with his wife Erin and their two daughters, Inari (6) and Islita (3).Having spent more than 15 years designing and building conventional, sustainable and off-grid homes around the world, Harrison's work now centres on helping people develop the skills and confidence to become more capable and self-sufficient.He is the co-founder of Common Knowledge, a non-profit social enterprise based in the Burren that teaches practical skills for sustainable living, from building and DIY to growing food, making furniture and mending clothes.His latest book, Heat, Shelter, Water, Food: How to Be Ready for the Unexpected, looks at the basic systems we rely on every day and asks a simple but increasingly important question: what happens when those systems stop working?From storms and power cuts to food and water security, this conversation is ultimately about knowledge, skills and agency, and why becoming a little more capable can help us feel a lot more secure.Harrison also authored Build Your Own and Our Homes and presents RTÉ's Build Your Own Home.Find out more about Harrison and his work:HARRISON GARDNERAnd if this conversation resonated with you, you might also enjoy these episodes from the Ready to Be Real archive:Mark Boyle: The Moneyless ManKenneth Keavey of Green Earth Organics: The True Cost of Cheap FoodRaeeka Yassaie: Climate in CrisisYou'll find all three in the Ready to Be Real archive wherever you get your podcasts.
Kyla Cobbler on Ageing & Premenstrual Rage
12:29|If you enjoy this snippet, check out the full conversation with Kyla, anytime now!
Kyla Cobbler: Taking up space
53:01|Topics covered : Gratitude, self-belief, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, mother-daughter bond, coercive control, patriarchy, beauty standards, ageing, women’s cycles, strength training, healthy love, taking up space.This week’s guest is comedian and now author Kyla Cobbler.Kyla and I sat down in Galway just as her first book, 'Happy, Thank You, More, Please' was released. We talk about the five-word mantra that has stayed with her since she was 21, her difficult experience of school, the unwavering support of her Mom, and her journey towards trusting herself and taking up space.We also talk about coercive control, finding healthy love with her husband Simon, life under the patriarchy, beauty standards, ageing, honouring women’s cycles, strength training, and learning to appreciate the life you have while still being brave enough to ask for more.'Happy, Thank You, More, Please' is out now, available in all good bookshops and as an audiobook and it is brilliant!
Why is it so hard to rest? : Dr. Malie Coyne
50:04|Topics covered : Rest, nervous system regulation, connection, guilt, awareness, balance, parenting, burnout, self compassion.For my final episode before the summer break, I'm joined by chartered clinical psychologist, author and psychology lecturer, Dr Malie Coyne.Why do so many of us find it so difficult to rest?Malie explores our relationship with rest and why, in a world that celebrates busyness, so many of us struggle to switch off.Malie lives in Galway with her husband, Pete, and their two daughters, Jessica (14) and Aimée (12) and she first joined me on the podcast during the pandemic, helping us navigate one of the most uncertain periods of our lives.If you enjoyed this conversation, you might also like previous episodes with Dermot Whelan and Alana Kirk.As always, thank you for listening. If this episode resonated with you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a rating or review, and sharing it with someone who might need to hear it.To connect with Malie :Dr. Malie Coyne | Clinical Psychologist, Author, Lecturer at NUI GalwayShe is the co-author for the 'A Lust For Life' primary and secondary wellbeing school programmes and is also on their mental health advisory panel.Book mentions :'Love in, Love out : A compassionate approach to parenting your anxious child' Dr. Malie Coyne'Rest is Resistance : Free yourself from grind culture and reclaim yoiur life' Tricia Hersey