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Tears for Gaza amidst Disney rides and face farts (Ep.14)
Kori starts things off with a bang - or rather a toot - relaying her latest mom-of-toddler antics, and Laura shares briefly her family vacation that involved Disney and dolphins. While Laura was in the happiest place on earth, Gaza experienced brutal attacks, bringing both Kori and Laura to tears - and feelings of anger. In this episode, the women acknowledge the complexity and nuance this topic deserves and promise to point to informed sources for better details, but they elevate values all of us should be able to get behind - liberation, full rights, protecting children and innocent civilians, peace, safety, hope for a future, as well as rejecting anti-Semitism, Islamophobia, xenophobia, and genocide. Kori makes connections between Free Palestine and Black Lives Matters, and encourages us to remember more than one truth can exist at the same time, creating cognitive tension. The ladies share ideas for how we can impact change in this dire situation. Potential actions include voting, calling your federal representatives to demand a ceasefire and humanitarian aid, donating to nonprofits serving the region, learning and reading more about the history of the region, using your social media feed to call attention to human impacts, diversifying your sources of information, sending light, energy and safety for folks on the front lines of diplomacy and humanitarian aid, and most importantly, checking on the people in your Jewish and Muslim, Palestinian, Israeli, and Arab friends and family members - who feel their existence is threatened in this moment. Be kind, find common humanity, and avoid the temptation to oversimplify the matter to one good and one bad side.
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