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10 ways to help your child cooperate without using punishments (Reissue)

Ep. 657

657.Gaining your child's cooperation can be challenging, to say the least. It's no wonder that parents try to control their children's behavior using rewards, threats, and punishments. But while these strategies may seem to work in the short term, they're not the most effective way to teach your child the values and rules of your home and your community. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor gives you 10 alternatives to punitive discipline.


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