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208: Love Block #1 The Commitment Phobe: Why You’re Always the One Chasing, Never Chosen

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Are You Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners? Here’s Why. 💔


If you keep falling for emotionally unavailable partners or ending up in situationships, there’s a reason—and it’s not just bad luck.


In this episode, Sanaiyah kicks off the 5-part Love Blocks Series with one of the most common love blocks of all: Commitment Phobia. Whether you find yourself in situationships, falling for emotionally distant partners, or pushing away the ones who actually want to commit, this episode will help you uncover why you’re stuck in this cycle—and more importantly, how to break free.


💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✨ The telltale signs of commitment phobia (even when you think you’re ready for love)

✨ How past wounds & subconscious fears shape your relationships

✨ Why commitment might feel unsafe—and how to shift that belief

✨ The first step to breaking the cycle: Choosing yourself first


📲 Ready to Break Free from This Pattern?

💖 Take the Love Blocks Quiz at www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com/love-blocks-quiz 🚀 Start the 30-Day Self-Love Challenge to commit to yourself & attract real love at www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com/30-slc


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