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S6 Ep 87: Domestic violence and self defense
Season 6, Ep. 87
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Self-Defense In Familial Situations
Women are frequently abused in our own families, and even within friend groups. Misogyny is deeply embedded in all of us. As women, we have built-in misogyny toward ourselves.
How Can Women Speak Up About Domestic Abuse?
We must not define someone else's violence for them; rather, we must help them understand what violence looks like.
It's Hard For People To Accept That Those They Love Are Hurting Them
Nobody wants to believe that the people they care about are abusive. It could even possibly be true, and the people they care about don't mean to hurt them. Maybe they're working out their cycles, over which they have no control.
Physical Abuse In Relationships
This becomes more challenging when dealing with parents or partners. Because it is viewed as a form of discipline, violence against children can be considered normal. It can take some time for children to understand that hitting, punching, or kicking another child is unacceptable.
The TSK Benjamin Foundation
The goal is to assist parents and caregivers in creating a nurturing environment for children. And it will imply that children who experience these things will suffer the negative effects of certain types of parenting.
Keywords
- Women
- Violence
- Parents
- Siblings
- Defend
- Approach
- Experience
- Emotionally
- Partners
- Important
- Protect
- Understand
- Accept
- Hurting
- Control
- Life
- Safety
- Power
- Trauma
Timestamps
00:01: Introduction
00:28: Description
01:35: Self-defense in familial situations
05:39: How do women speak up about domestic abuse?
09:40: It’s hard for people to accept that those whom they love are hurting them
13:24: Physical violence in relationships
17:32: The TSK Benjamin Foundation
20:59: Relevant Quotes and Websites
As mentioned in the podcast
The TSK Benjamin Foundation
The goal is to assist parents and caregivers in creating a nurturing environment for children. And it will imply that children who experience these things will suffer the negative effects of certain types of parenting.
We are working on a series of videos to assist parents. If there are professionals who are interested in child development, the effects of trauma on children's brains, and how to help parents avoid trauma, that would be extremely beneficial. Follow The Tsk Benjamin Foundation on Instagram for more information and daily updates.
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