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Why You Use Filler Words And How to Stop Them

In this episode, Lucas and Alex dive into one of the most common habits in speaking filler sounds.


They break down why words like “um,” “uh,” and “you know” show up in the first place, and what’s actually happening in your head when they do.


The big realization? It’s not just about bad habits,  it’s about thinking, pressure, and how you handle silence.


They talk about:

  • Why filler sounds appear when you’re thinking or unprepared
  • How they instantly affect your credibility and attention
  • The difference between removing them and controlling them
  • Why going “perfect” can actually make you sound less human
  • A simple exercise you can try to become more aware of them


This is a practical and honest conversation about something everyone does, but very few people are aware of.

If you’ve ever listened back to yourself and thought “why do I sound like that?” This episode will change how you hear your own voice.


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