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So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex...During Infertility
"So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex" is a question Ian Kerner often asks people in his sex therapy practice and it's the title of his new book.
In this interview, Ian and Andrea discuss the difference between procreative sex and recreational sex, and Ian shares why we may need to update our 'sex script' in order to stay connected through tough challenges like grief and infertility.
Ian s a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress.
Whether or not you've experienced infertility and/or pregnancy losses, this episode is helpful for anyone who wants to keep intimacy alive in their lives as challenges arise.
This episode is presented by "This Is What Infertility Looks Like", a program produced by pregnantish with support from First Response Pregnancy. Visit pregnantish.com/infertilitylookslike for more
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