The Practice of Love Podcast

Episode 17. Silent divorce is one of the most dangerous places a relationship can land — not because of explosive fights, but because of silence. In this episode, we explore how couples drift into emotional divorce, and how to interrupt the drift. For some, it's a chance to reclaim intimacy. For others, it's a wake-up call to consciously uncouple.In Bloom Summit | April 10-12, 2026 https://www.inbloomsummit.com/———————The Practice of Love Podcast is a raw, real, and often humorous conversation between licensed therapist Lair Torrent and soul mentor Ashley Torrent. Together, they explore what it truly means to love— with intentionality, curiosity, and care. Whether navigating the complexities of relationship or the tender terrain of personal healing, their conversations offer grounded insights and practical tools for anyone walking the path of conscious connection.You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com. 

In this episode of The Practice of Love Podcast, Ashley and Lair open up about Lair’s recent surf accident—an experience that brought fear, PTSD, shame, and deep vulnerability to the surface. They reflect on the tension between joy and fear, the subconscious beliefs that can make happiness feel unsafe, and how they navigated this crisis together in the midst of an already intense life transition. Through honesty and reflection, they explore the complexities of trauma, resilience, and the practice of love in the face of unexpected challenges.———————Lair and Ashley Torrent host the Practice of Love Podcast. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com. 

Change is a constant in life, but how we respond to it shapes our experience. In this episode, Lair and Ashley explore the tension between resistance and acceptance, uncovering why they struggle with change and how surrendering can lead to transformation. Having just moved to Costa Rica, they share their own experiences of navigating major life transitions and the challenges of stepping into the unknown. They discuss the role of spiritual practice in embracing change, the inevitability of chaos in transformation, how to protect inner peace amidst uncertainty, and the importance of staying deeply connected to the soul through it all.

In this episode, Lair and Ashley dive deep into the concept of vulnerability—what it truly means and what it looks like, particularly in men. We explore why vulnerability in men is often misunderstood or even seen as a turn-off, shedding light on societal conditioning and outdated definitions of masculinity. Together, we discuss why embracing vulnerability is not a weakness but a profound act of courage and strength. The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.#thepracticeoflove #thepracticeoflovepodcast #relationshipgoals #healingYou can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholistictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com. 

In this episode, Ashley and Lair explore how silence can quietly erode trust and intimacy in relationships. They discuss why avoiding difficult conversations can feel safer, how unspoken emotions create distance, and offer practical ways to move from silence to open, meaningful communication.———————Lair and Ashley Torrent host the Practice of Love Podcast. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.#thepracticeoflove #thepracticeoflovepodcast #relationshipgoals #healingYou can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com. 

In this episode, we explore part 2 of the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. We dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it’s not what you will find in a Google search.             ——————— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website at ashleytorrent.com.   You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com. 

In this episode, we explore the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. In part one of a two-part answer, we dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it's not what you will find in a Google search.  

In this episode, we discuss the difficult decision that many, including ourselves, have made to walk away from a familial relationship. We share our experience, how we have dealt with the judgment around this unpopular choice, and what we have discovered on the other side of it.  —— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.   You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com. You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.