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93. Book Club: “The Let Them Theory” by Mel Robbins
Ep. 93
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“The Let Them Theory” is the latest bestselling book by Mel Robbins, who is an award-winning podcast host, #1 New York Times bestselling author, and one of the world’s most respected experts in mindset, life improvement, and behavior change. “The Let Them Theory” is a step-by-step guide on how to stop letting other people's opinions, drama, and judgment impact your life.
We loved how the theory Mel describes in this book helps you free yourself from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. We’re all control freaks and this book is a great tool for anyone (like us) who’s learning to relinquish that.
In this episode, we chat about:
- why “let them” is not letting go
- pushing past negative opinions and disappointing people
- overcoming emotional overwhelm
- using this theory to navigate adult friendships, and support loved ones through change
- how to be more effective at nagging and influencing others
- & so much more!
In Mel’s words, “Let Them is strength. It’s releasing the grip you have on how things should go and allowing them to unfold the way they will go. You’re making an active, empowered choice to release control you never truly had.”
Mentioned in the episode:
“The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About” by Mel Robbins: https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/
Ampersand Fragrances: https://www.ampersandfragrances.com/
Who Gives a Crap: https://whogivesacrap.org/
Jules Acree’s Slow Brew Sunday newsletter: https://julesacree.kit.com/b9789442a2
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