Share

AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety
PSP: 393: Helping Autistic Kids Who have OCD with Jan Stewart
It can be hard enough to help a child with OCD, but what if they are autistic as well? It can be confusing to figure out where autistic traits end and OCD compulsions begin. It can also be a struggle to navigate two worlds that don’t always intersect.
That is why I was thrilled to invite Jan Stewart to the AT Parenting Survival Podcast. Jan is a highly regarded mental health and neurodiversity advocate and mom to two, now grown children with multiple diagnoses.
She is the author of Hold on Tight: A Parent’s Journey Raising Children with Mental Illness.
In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I sat down with Jan to discuss how parents can decipher autistic traits from OCD compulsions, how ERP is adapted for autistic children and how to take care of ourselves and our other relationships while trying to stay afloat.
Resources:
Check out Jan Stewart’s book Hold on Tight: A Parent’s Journey Raising Children with Mental Illness.
Jan Stewart’s column in Today’s Parent
IOCDF Special Interest Group OCD and Autism
🌸 Want in-depth support? Join the AT Parenting Community. Doors close this Thursday, November 21, 2024.
***
This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to
https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parenting
This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.
Parents, do you need more support?
🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️
Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:
https://atparentingsurvivalschool.com
Join the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):
https://atparentingcommunity.com
Take one of my FREE webinars:
www.Natashadaniels.com/webinars
Check out my books:
🌸 Other social places I hang out:
http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
More episodes
View all episodes

The 7 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make When Trying to Help OCD (and What to Do Instead)
38:32|Are you trying everything to help your child’s OCD… yet nothing seems to stick?You’re not alone—and it’s not because you’re doing anything wrong.In this episode, I’m breaking down the 7 most common mistakes parents make when trying to help OCD, and more importantly, what to do instead. These mistakes are incredibly common, even among well-meaning therapists, and understanding them is the first step to real progress.We’ll talk about:Why logic and reassurance often make OCD strongerHow accommodations quietly feed OCD’s powerWhy ERP isn’t just “facing fears”And the role parents must play in their child’s OCD journeyIf your child has OCD, this episode will help you stop spinning your wheels and start using tools that actually work.🧡 Want step-by-step guidance on how to help your child at home?Register for my FREE video series Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with anxiety or OCD at atparentingsurvivalseries.com.🧡 For this episode’s handout go to www.natashadaniels.com/handoutsTake my SPACE Study course at www.natashadaniels.com/space and learn about the AT Parenting Community at www.atparentingcommunity.com ***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
The Do’s and Don’ts of Pulling Back OCD Accommodations
41:38|When your child struggles with OCD, it’s natural to want to ease their distress, but those well-meaning “helping” moments can actually feed OCD’s control. In this episode, Natasha breaks down how to pull back accommodations safely and effectively, without creating unnecessary conflict or fear.You’ll learn:What OCD accommodations really are and how they sneak into daily routinesWhy reducing them helps your child gain long-term confidenceHow to involve your child in the processWhat to do (and not do) when emotions run highHow to stay consistent and supportive as your child builds resiliencePulling back OCD accommodations isn’t about being tough — it’s about helping your child take their power back from OCD, one small step at a time.Get in-depth OCD support in my FREE parenting series starting this week. You can register at www.ATparentingsurvivalseries.comLinks mentioned in the show:Get a PDF handout of today’s episodeSPACE Treatment Study Guide CourseEli Lebowitz’s book Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD & Alec Pollard’s book When a Love On Won’t Seek Mental Health TreatmentSPACE Treatment website, Alec Pollard’s website, YouTube video on compulsive reassurance, YouTube video on compulsive confessing, Podcast on developing effective incentive plans***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional. Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD: https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD): https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars: www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books
My Child Can’t Explain Their OCD—Now What?
36:01|When your child can’t explain their OCD, it can feel impossible to know how to help. Many kids feel embarrassed, don’t have the words, or experience OCD as a feeling instead of a clear fear. Sometimes the compulsions come first, making it even harder to put into words.In this episode, I’ll share why kids struggle to explain their OCD and what you can do instead of pushing for answers. You’ll learn how to spot patterns, identify themes, and support your child with both compassion and strategy.✨ Want more step-by-step guidance? Join my free series, Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety or OCD starting next week at www.atparentingsurvivalseries.com.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
When Reassurance Becomes an OCD Compulsion: How Parents Can Respond Differently
33:46|When your child is stuck in an endless cycle of reassurance, it can feel impossible to break free. Reassurance may bring temporary relief, but for kids with OCD it actually fuels the disorder and makes things worse in the long run.In this episode, I talk about how reassurance becomes a compulsion, why it keeps your child trapped in OCD’s cycle, and what you can do differently instead. You’ll learn practical alternatives you can use right away that support your child without feeding OCD.If you’re looking for more tools and strategies to help your child, check out my free video series, Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety or OCD. You can sign up at www.atparentingsurvivalseries.com.To get the PDF mentioned in this episode go to www.natashadaniels.com/handouts To watch the Reassurance YouTube video click here.To get the OCD Themes PDF click here.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
Why Your Go-To Parenting Strategies Don’t Work on OCD
35:05|Parents often rely on their usual parenting strategies to help their child with OCD — but those same strategies can actually backfire. In this episode, I break down the most common approaches parents try and explain why they don’t work when it comes to OCD.If you’ve ever felt stuck, repeating the same things without progress, this episode will help you understand why and what to do differently.To get the PDF handout that supplements this episode go to www.natashadaniels.com/episode440✨ Get 50% off all my courses and workshops until October 18, 2025 11:59pm in honor of OCD Awareness Week. Go to AT Parenting Survival School and use the coupon code OCDAWARENESS2025.Links mentioned in podcast:Podcast: Validation vs Accommodations in OCDPodcast: Developing Effective Incentive PlansReel: Distraction vs Refocusing***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
When OCD Shifts: Handling Theme Changes in Kids & Teens with OCD
46:53|OCD loves to change costumes. One week it’s germs, the next it’s harm or moral worries—and parents are left wondering, “Are we back at square one?” In this episode I explain why theme changes are common, what’s actually staying the same beneath the surface, and how to respond without chasing content.You’ll learn:Why themes change (and why that doesn’t mean regression)How to spot the OCD cycle across any themePractical ways to keep coaching and exposures on track when the fear looks “new”Language you can use with your child when OCD suddenly pivotsWant weekly free OCD parenting support delivered right to your inbox? Get on my newsletter by going to: www.Natashadaniels.com/newsletter.Links Mentioned in This Episode:Join the AT Parenting CommunityCore Fear YouTube PlaylistOCD is an Octopus videoOffense and Defense videoMoral OCD YouTube Playlist***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
Interview with Dr. Tamar Chansky Author of Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
47:15|In this podcast episode, I sit down with Dr. Tamar Chansky to talk about the newly revised edition of her classic book, Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.Dr. Chansky has helped countless families better understand OCD and learn practical, compassionate strategies to support their children. In our conversation, we discuss what’s new in this updated edition, how the field’s understanding of OCD has evolved, and the tools parents need today to help their kids face intrusive thoughts and compulsions.Whether you’re just beginning your journey with OCD or looking for fresh tools to strengthen your child’s progress, this conversation will give you both hope and direction.Get your updated version of Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
How to Help Young Children with OCD
40:22|OCD can show up much earlier than most people realize — and often in ways parents don’t immediately recognize. For younger kids, compulsions might appear before they can even describe intrusive thoughts. You might see rigidity, controlling behaviors, repetitive actions, or big meltdowns over things that don’t seem to make sense.In this episode, I’ll walk you through how OCD can look in young children and share practical strategies for helping them. From personifying OCD as “Mr. Bossy,” to creating superheroes who fight back, to slowly reducing accommodations and even gamifying the process — I’ll give you tools to make OCD something your child can actually face.If you’ve ever wondered how to support a younger child with OCD, this episode will give you a roadmap to start.Also, check out my new children’s picture book to help children with OCD: Chloe and the Bossy Cloud.******This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
Does Your Child Have Contamination OCD: Are You Missing This?
36:41|Contamination OCD can be easy to spot, but often, it runs much deeper than what you are observing.In this episode, I break down the common mistakes parents make when trying to support a child with contamination OCD, such as:Assuming it’s always about germs or illnessFocusing only on visible rituals instead of the underlying fearOverlooking how contamination spreads from “ground zero” to more and more thingsMissing the importance of tailoring exposures to the specific fear or feelingMost importantly, I’ll share how to uncover the true root fear and ground zero behind OCD contamination, and why that shift changes how exposures are designed and carried out.Resources mentioned during episode:New Book: Chloe & The Bossy CloudCore Fear Series on YoutubeCore Fear WorkshopContamination OCD videos for kids and teens***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival