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PSP 381: Letting Our Kids Fail So They Can Succeed

It can be so hard to see our kids tumble and fall. No one wants to see their kids fail. But we rob our kids the ability to learn when we protect them from failure.


This can impact how we show up for their anxiety or OCD. It can impact how much freedom we give them. It can also decipher how much we micromanage what they eat, how much they sleep and how long they are on electronics.


In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore the idea that we have to let our kids fail in order to succeed. We also discuss how we have to give our kids some level of freedom in order to teach them to regulate themselves. 


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This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to

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