Share
AT Parenting Survival Podcast: Parenting | Child Anxiety | Child OCD | Kids & Family
PSP 381: Letting Our Kids Fail So They Can Succeed
It can be so hard to see our kids tumble and fall. No one wants to see their kids fail. But we rob our kids the ability to learn when we protect them from failure.
This can impact how we show up for their anxiety or OCD. It can impact how much freedom we give them. It can also decipher how much we micromanage what they eat, how much they sleep and how long they are on electronics.
In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore the idea that we have to let our kids fail in order to succeed. We also discuss how we have to give our kids some level of freedom in order to teach them to regulate themselves.
🌸 Want social anxiety support?
Want to get my $127 social anxiety course for FREE? Pre-order my new memoir, Out of My Shell: Overcoming Social Anxiety from Childhood to Adulthood and send us the receipt and you’ll get the course for free! Just go to socialanxietyreality.com to learn more. This offer ends Oct 19, 2024.
***
This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to
https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parenting
This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.
Parents, do you need more support?
🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️
Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:
https://atparentingsurvivalschool.com
Join the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):
https://atparentingcommunity.com
Take one of my FREE webinars:
www.Natashadaniels.com/webinars
Check out my books:
🌸 Other social places I hang out:
http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvival
http://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival
More episodes
View all episodes
PSP: 393: Helping Autistic Kids Who have OCD with Jan Stewart
59:36|It can be hard enough to help a child with OCD, but what if they are autistic as well? It can be confusing to figure out where autistic traits end and OCD compulsions begin. It can also be a struggle to navigate two worlds that don’t always intersect.That is why I was thrilled to invite Jan Stewart to the AT Parenting Survival Podcast. Jan is a highly regarded mental health and neurodiversity advocate and mom to two, now grown children with multiple diagnoses. She is the author of Hold on Tight: A Parent’s Journey Raising Children with Mental Illness. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I sat down with Jan to discuss how parents can decipher autistic traits from OCD compulsions, how ERP is adapted for autistic children and how to take care of ourselves and our other relationships while trying to stay afloat.Resources:Check out Jan Stewart’s book Hold on Tight: A Parent’s Journey Raising Children with Mental Illness. Jan Stewart’s column in Today’s ParentIOCDF Special Interest Group OCD and Autism🌸 Want in-depth support? Join the AT Parenting Community. Doors close this Thursday, November 21, 2024. ***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP: 392: What Stories are You Telling Yourself About Your Child’s Anxiety or OCD?
53:41|We may not have full control over our child’s recovery around anxiety or OCD, but we can control how we show up to their struggles. This can be tricky when our mind is bogged down with what-if scenarios. That is why it is so important to pay attention to the narratives we are spinning around our child’s anxiety or OCD and tap into what emotions are showing up for us, as we show up for them.In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore the stories that so many of us raising kids with anxiety or OCD tell ourselves, and how to develop a daily practice to reframe the narrative.🌸 Last chance to register for the FREE series: Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety or OCD.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP: 391: What to Do When Your Child Won’t Get Needed Mental Health Treatment with Alec Pollard
01:05:38|The number one struggle I hear from parents is, “My child won’t accept help for their anxiety or OCD.” What are we supposed to do when anxiety or OCD has hijacked the house and everyone who inhabits it?Dr. Alec Pollard has dedicated his career and research to this very question. He is the co-developer of the Family Well-Being Approach (FWBA) and is the founding director of the Center for OCD & Anxiety-Related Disorders at Saint Louis Behavioral Medicine Institute, and professor emeritus of family and community medicine at Saint Louis University School of Medicine. He also happens to be one of my favorite researchers, as he has a down-to-earth way about explaining and helping families in need. He’s also quite funny.In Dr. Pollard’s new book, When a Loved One Won’t Seek Mental Health Treatment, he offers family members a roadmap on how to get their life back while promoting their loved one’s recovery.In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I had the joy of sitting down with Dr. Pollard and exploring some of the key points in his approach outlined in his book. I know every parent will get some important takeaways from our discussion!🌸 Click here to get the book When a Loved One Won’t Seek Mental Health Treatment.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP: 390: Helping Kids Who Give Up Easily
51:55|Anxiety and OCD can take a TON of resilience. So when we have kids who generally give up easily, this can impact how they handle their mental health struggles. Some kids have this go get’em attitude and get up every time they are knocked down, while other kids give up before they even begin. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast we’ll discuss why some kids give up so easily and what concrete things we can do to help them shift this behavior.Resources:People Who Failed Before They Succeeded29 Famous People Who Failed Before Succeeding50 People Who Experienced Failure Before SucceedingBooks:Mistakes that Worked: 40 Familiar Inventions & How They Came to BeThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ckFREE series:🌸 Join our FREE series, Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety or OCD. The series starts next week!🌸 Join our newsletter at www.natashadaniels.com/newsletter***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD: https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD): https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars: www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP 389: Reducing Isolation in Kids Who are Doing Homeschool or Online Schooling
48:20|Many of our kids thrive in non-traditional learning environments. And some of our kids are not able to go to an in-person school due to the acuity of their anxiety or OCD.One of the cons of at-home learning is the isolation it can bring. Isolation can increase anxiety and OCD and make our kids feel disconnected. It is helpful to have a proactive plan on how to connect our kids with others so we reduce the impact of isolation.In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I discuss the risk of isolation with our children who are homeschooling or doing online learning and what concrete steps we can take to minimize disconnection.***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books:www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP 388: Helping Our College Kids with Anxiety or OCD
42:50|It is hard enough supporting our kids with anxiety or OCD, but what happens when they go away to college? We still need to support our kids, but our relationship and physical proximity has changed. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival podcast I explore the many ways in which our mindset and role shifts when our kids go off to college. We’ll discuss effective ways to support them and foster independence.🎉 To celebrate OCD Awareness Week families can get 50% off all my online courses on anxiety and OCD. Just use the coupon code OCDAWARENESSWEEK2024 when checking out. You can go to www.atparentingsurvivalschool.com to explore our library of classes for parents and kids. This offer ends October 19, 2024.******This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books:www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP 387: How to Address Picking and Pulling Behaviors with Aneela Idnani
52:58|It is not uncommon for kids with anxiety or OCD to also have issues with picking their skin or pulling their hair. These behaviors are classified as BFRBs, body-focused, repetitive behaviors. Although BFRBs are a common comorbid condition to anxiety and OCD, it is a separate disorder with its own set of therapy approaches. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, we celebrate BFRB week by having one of my favorite people on, Aneela Idnani from Habitaware. Aneela has struggled with trichotillomania her whole life. She took her pain and turned it into purpose; helping other people with BFRBs. She created a bracelet that helps people with BFRBs become more aware of when they are doing those behaviors. She also built a beautiful community filled with free support groups for kids and teens as well as services to support parents.Resources:HabitawareFree BFRB kid support group Free BFRB teen support groupParent Huddle SeriesThe BFRB Change CollectiveBFRB ChangemakersPickingme.orgThe TLC Foundation***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to: https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD: https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD): https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars: www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books: www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalPSP 386: The Difference Between PDA Accommodations and OCD Accommodations
31:13|Often parents who are raising kids with both PDA and OCD get conflicting advice. This can push a parent who is already stressed, over the edge. Are accommodations good or are they bad? One set of advice talks about leaning into accommodations, while the other set says accommodations are something to eventually stop. The reality is PDA accommodations and OCD accommodations aren’t the same. OCD accommodations are specifically talking about participating in a child’s OCD compulsions. Those are called accommodations. When we participate in our child’s OCD compulsions we are inadvertently growing their OCD and the OCD behavior will worsen. That is different from the PDA accommodations needed to give them a sense of autonomy while fostering a low-demand environment. That doesn’t mean PDA doesn’t bring another layer of struggle when it comes to addressing OCD symptoms - it does! But the use of the word accommodations have different meanings.In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore the world of PDA and OCD and try to dispel any misunderstandings that exist when straddling both worlds.PDA Resources:PDA SocietyChild Mind Institute: PDANational Autistic Society: PDAPDA North America***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books:www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/ParentingsurvivalPSP 385: Helping Kids with OCD with Stuart Ralph from OCD Stories
59:49|I had the pleasure of sitting down with Stuart Ralph, from the podcast The OCD Stories to talk about his journey from OCD sufferer, OCD podcaster to therapist.We explore how treating kids and teens with OCD requires a different, more flexible approach. Stuart also offers some helpful tips on how to navigate the UK mental health system.Stuart Ralph’s practice, Integrative Centre for OCD offers therapy to kids, teens and young adults regardless of where in the world they are located. To learn more go to his practice website here.Resources:Integrative Centre for OCDNICE guidelines OCD UKOCD ActionThe OCD Stories***This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go tohttps://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parentingThis podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Parents, do you need more support? 🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:https://atparentingsurvivalschool.comJoin the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):https://atparentingcommunity.comTake one of my FREE webinars:www.Natashadaniels.com/webinarsCheck out my books:www.Natashadaniels.com/books🌸 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvivalhttp://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival