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An Important Difference Between Anxiety vs OCD Reassurance

Parents often hear the same questions from their child again and again, and it can be hard to know if answering is helping or making things worse. In this episode, I break down the important difference between anxiety reassurance and OCD reassurance.

While they can look similar on the surface, they serve very different purposes. Anxiety reassurance often comes from a child not trusting their ability to cope, while OCD reassurance acts as a compulsion that keeps the OCD cycle going. Knowing the difference can change how you respond.

If you are a parent who feels stuck answering the same worries, fears, or “what if” questions, this episode will help you understand when reassurance supports your child and when it unintentionally grows anxiety and OCD.


Links discussed during episode:

Get the PDF handout for this episode here

Free series: Survival Tools for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety or OCD

The SPACE Study Guide Course

Video: How Reassurance is a Compulsion

Podcast: How to Use Reassurance Cards

Podcast: How to Create an Effective Incentive Plan

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This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to

https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parenting


This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.


Parents, do you need more support?  


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