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171: “The Collapse of Parenting” – How We Hurt Children When We Treat Them Like Grownups

NYT best-selling author Dr Leonard Sax joins the podcast to discuss his book, and to make us aware of the toxic effects the trend towards more gentle, permissive parenting can have on our kids. In our conversation, he provides many evidence-based examples to support his years of observations as a physician managing family care. 


Check out Dr Sax here at www.leonardsax.com


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