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7. 007: Who Gets To Belong?
01:07:54||Season 1, Ep. 7In the second part of their Chums deep dive, Amile and Phoebe turn to the figures and cultural touchpoints that continue to shape Britain’s class system. From Jacob Rees-Mogg to Princess Diana and The Crown, they reflect on how class remains deeply embedded in British life, and why access to its upper echelons is rarely as fluid as it first appears. Phoebe shares why Brexit was the worst referendum of all time. Amile explains why she’s never read the Metro. They end by reflecting on the tension between disillusionment and hope & what it might mean to stay engaged in a system that doesn’t always feel built for you.This episode pairs well with:Chums by Simon KuperThe Crown (TV series)A Gin & Dubbonet served over ice à la the late Queen Elizabeth IIRemembering where you were when Princess Dianna diedSkipping past eh newspaper headlines to get to the crossword
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6. 006: Who Runs the Country? (Chums Pt I)
01:08:57||Season 1, Ep. 6In a special two-parter, Amile and Phoebe turn to Simon Kuper’s Chums to explore the networks shaping Britains political elite. They trace the shared paths of those in power, asking why our last 6 prime ministers were Oxford educated. From the college dorm rooms to Downing Street, they reflect on how belonging is signalled, and why entry to these spaces is rarely accidental. Along the way, they discuss the enduring question of who the system is really built for.This episode pairs well with:Chums by Simon KuperEngines of Privilege by David Kynaston & Francis GreenSaltburn (2023), dir. Emerald FennellA cup of Early Grey, with a splash of milk. No sugar.Pretending not to care which college people attended.Realising the same surnames keep reappearing.Happy listening,A&P
6. polyamory, queerness and lily allen's divorce album.
14:48||Season 1, Ep. 6it feels like the landscape of relationships have changed in recent years, especially for us millennials. it's a time of contradiction. the girls want independence, but a man that's richer than them. the boys are getting more conservative, yet seeking non monogamous relationships. perhaps everyone is being genuine, but it seems that even the most cis heteronormative amongst us are cherrypicking language from from those whose lives centre around nonconformity and queerness. we talk about lily allen, bronywn (rhoslc) & that time my ex told me he was into polyamory.
5. 005: What Do Women Want?
58:00||Season 1, Ep. 5The episode begins with a story of being spotted reading Gillian Anderson’s Want in public, opening into a conversation about the ways women construct intimacy when no one is watching.Between a Nigerian Christian and an Irish Catholic, the conversation around fantasy quickly unfolds. Amile & Phoebe explore confession, contradiction & cultural taboo. They also discuss the complexity of desire & the various tropes (ergo moments of cringe) that shape it.This episode pairs well with: Want by Gillian AndersonThree Women by Lisa TaddeoThe Sex Lives of African Women by Nana Darkoa SekyiamahMy Secret Garden by Nancy FridayA dark negroni, with a single maraschino cherry.Finally booking that boudoir photoshoot for your birthday.Using your journal to write down the thoughts you were never meant to say out loud.Happy listening,A&P
4. 004: Where Do Lost Boys Go?
01:12:09||Season 1, Ep. 4In this episode of Pairings, Amile and Phoebe explore the rise of the Manosphere and the appeal of the so-called red pill. They reflect on the promises offered by its figureheads, and the way that insecurity can harden into ideology, and at times extremism. From the pickup artists of the early noughties to the Looksmaxxers and Incels of present day, they trace the shifting language of online masculinity. In doing so, they consider the stories men are being told about themselves, and the world. This episode pairs well with: Lost Boys by James BloodworthThe Will To Change by bell hooksThe Matrix (1999), dir by The WachowskisAdolescence (TV series) dir by Philip BarantiniA smoky mezcalita in a Tajín-rimmed whiskey glass Striking up a conversation with a stranger in real lifeHappy listening, A&P
3. 003: What Makes a Mother?
01:11:28||Season 1, Ep. 3In this episode of Pairings, Amile and Phoebe explore the cultural scripts shaping modern motherhood and the word every new mother seems to be whispering: Matrescence.They reflect on the myths that romanticise motherhood, the physical and emotional realities often left unsaid, and the quiet pressures that continue to define what a “good” mother should be.Along the way, they consider judgment and the burdens that women are still expected to carry.This episode pairs well with:Matrescence by Lucy JonesNightbitch by Rachel YoderMotherland, series on BBC & NetflixA cheeky shot of Irish cream in your hot chocolate.Switching jobs for the maternity benefits.Choosing the right godparent for your kid.Happy listening,A&P
2. 002: Falling in Love With AI?
01:11:09||Season 1, Ep. 2In this episode of Pairings, Amile and Phoebe talk through stories that could only come from this modern age: a married woman who falls in love with her chatbot, and an app that helps you pretend to be well read. Moving between intimacy, imagination, and society, they reflect on what technology is reshaping — and what it may quietly be replacing - across childhood and adulthood.This episode pairs well with:Fahrenheit 451 by Ray BradburyHer (2013), dir. Spike JonzeBlack Mirror, created by Charlie BrookerI Have No Mouth and I Must Scream by Harlan EllisonOryx and Crake by Margaret AtwoodA cold glass of Vermentino, and Salt & Vinegar crisps.Re-activating your library membership.Reading aloud to the kids in your life.Ten points if you spotted the em dash.Happy listening,A&P