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10 Minute Mend: I Replaced Alcohol With This

Season 3

A special golfing and sobriety chat this week brings us into the life of Peter “Tubes” Dale, who turned to golf as a way to keep up socialisation with his friends after making the brave decision to give up alcohol and stop drinking. In this episode, he opens up about the moment when he decided to switch out alcohol for finding a hobby, how he landed on golf, and how having an addict's mentality is both a blessing and a curse.


This is a grounded conversation about addiction, mental health, and a personalised, thoughtful approach to recovery - not as a straight line, but as something messy and ongoing.


YOU CAN WATCH THE FULL EPISODE WITH TUBES HERE


00:00 Best Day on the Course

00:52 How Golf Replaced Drinking

02:06 Everyone in Recovery Needs a Hobby

03:05 Using Golf as an Excuse to Drink

04:21 Becoming Obsessed with Golf

05:02 The Addictive Personality Explained

06:06 Why Golf Helps Mental Health

07:25 Addiction vs Mental Health Differences

08:18 Replacing Alcohol with Something Better

10:01 Connection, Friendship and Staying Sober


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Need Support?

Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.org

Narcotics Anonymous: na.org

Alcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk

Mental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.uk

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IAPT: england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/

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