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Gabby Logan on Grief, Competitiveness, and Finding Peace in Middle Age
Season 2, Ep. 15
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Gabby was the first female football anchor on terrestrial television and she’s perfected the art of asking great questions, while covering a wide range of international sporting events.
In this episode, Matt turns the tables on Gabby, and she speaks with great honesty, sharing moments and insights from her life and career.
Sporty and very driven from an early age, Gabby competed at the Commonwealth Games when she was still a teenager. But when her gymnastics career came to an abrupt end, she had to find a new direction. And this big change was followed by the shocking loss of her brother Daniel, when he was just 15 years old.
Gabby talks about the impact of grief on her family and how she found the support to deal with her own. She shares how she found confidence as a broadcaster and learned to accept the competitiveness that was forged in a sporting environment.
Gabby also reflects on the challenges and the joy she’s experienced raising her own family; and the wisdom and life-changing lessons she’s gained through her own podcast, The Mid.Point.
(01:40) Gabby’s sporty childhood
(04:01) Owning competitiveness
(07:24) British self-deprecation vs. the mentality in the US
(09:06) Honesty vs. brutal honesty
(10:28) Gabby’s love of order and finding compromise as a family
(12:33) Gabby’s gymnastics career (and finding a new direction when it was gone)
(15:27) The death of Gabby’s brother, Daniel, when he was just 15
(18.28) The impact on Gabby’s family (and varied ways of dealing with grief)
(21:30) The negative consequences of avoiding grief
(26:35) Her father’s self-destructive behaviour and the challenge of providing support
(38:26) Gabby’s mentor Ed Percival, NLP, and finding confidence at work
(44:06) Meeting her husband Kenny
(45:16) Wim Hoff and trying cold water therapy on Freeze The Fear
(48:03) Gabby’s podcast, The Mid.Point
(53:14) The importance of exercise and being truly present at family time
(55:34) Writing The Midpoint Plan
(56:44) Matt’s outro
Related links:
The Mid.Point: The Prostate Episode, with Kenny Logan
NHS guidance on prostate cancer
Gabby’s new book: The Midpoint Plan
Gabby’s memoir: The First Half
Gabby takes the plunge on BBC One’s Freeze The Fear
The Sports Agents podcast
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