Nuggets Of Nikki

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Who is the love of your life? If you think about it, outsourcing the love of YOUR life actually sounds counterintuitive, especially when the love you seek is already seeking you whenever you look in the mirror. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean you can't have more than one love of your life—I'm just saying you shouldn't neglect to make one of them, well, you.

Self-sabotage, impostor syndrome, whatever you want to call it—we've all been afflicted by this level of self-doubt in many aspects in life, not just romantically. You might be the type to rationalize why something might be too good to be true, or if you're even deserving of it. Bottomline is, you won't really know unless you give it a shot. An actual, honest-to-god, genuine shot.

Been actively dating and realizing there’s not a lot of potential left in the pool? There’s a chance you might end up thinking it’s okay to settle for the next “ehh..they’re okay” person – no red flags, but no fireworks either. What you're asking for in a relationship isn't too much, and motivational speaker and author JPaul Hernandez further explains why you should never feel like you're settling in pursuit of a fulfilling relationship.

Sometimes, when we have big feelings, thoughts, and worries in relationships, we try our best not to make a big deal out of it to avoid inciting conflict with our partner. But talking ourselves out of what we feel can let you miss out on the message those feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are trying to tell you. Listen to this coaching call with Ico, who's working on his people pleasing patterns to advocate for himself better in his budding relationship.

Anyone in long-term relationships will tell you that maintaining one isn't an easy feat. Conflict is inevitable as it is essential, and you and your partner need to talk about it instead of sweep it under the rug. Conscious Parenting Coaches Kit and Inaki Llamas help us navigate relationship conflict and how we can create deeper intimacy as we come out the other side.

Everyone's got an origin story. Yes, you're the main character of your life, but are you also the author? For as long as I can remember, I would always see myself as the victim at the end of a relationship, and it took me a while to realize that I needed to take responsibility for the part that I played in those failed relationships too.

If you were criticized for showing big emotions during your childhood, you might have grown up into someone who distracted themselves from feeling fear, anxiety, anger, even sadness, so you wouldn’t seem “too much” or “difficult” as a partner. Neglecting your needs means abandoning yourself, and abandoning yourself leads to unhappy relationships. Listen to this coaching call with Achilles, who’s working on becoming more vulnerable so she can have the relationship she wants.