Narelle Fraser Interviews

This week’s podcast is quite different. I talk with many partners of Police and today I have the pleasure of sharing with you 2 separate conversations I had with 2 women who give very different accounts of what it’s like being in/having been in, a relationship with a Police Officer. I need to point out as I often do, but I need to reiterate, these 2 women share their personal thoughts, feelings and experiences – it’s how they feel and their own personal opinions.     

Charlotte shares with us the torment she endured not only during their marriage but afterwards, the violence, the threats, and the ways in which she says, her partner used his knowledge of the justice system to intimidate and belittle her and ultimately remove her children from her due to what she describes as lies, untruths and false statements in court documents and to the authorities. She also doesn’t hold back with what she thinks of his colleagues who sided with her partner and intimidated and threatened her.  Charlotte isn’t her real name and we’ve changed her voice slightly to protect her and their children.

Then we have Michelle, who’s story is completely different. Michelle’s partner and father of their 4 children, joined the job with a belief he could help others not as fortunate as himself. Michelle noticed a change in her partner’s behavior from the very day he began at the Academy.  His 11yrs with Victoria Police resulted in substantial psychological injuries, to the point he’s been a patient in a psychiatric hospital and not just the once. Their relationship has survived, but it hanged the 2 of them and their kids as well – no one has come out unscathed.  Victoria Police broke him, and nearly broke his family too, but 12 years on, life has found new meaning for him, his wife & family. 

You all know how much I love and miss Victoria Police. but by now I think you’ll know & appreciate there are parts of Victoria Police I will not gloss over and pretend they don’t exist or happen – BECAUSE THEY DO.   The only way we can improve anything in our lives is by sharing the good and the bad and not pretending it’s a perfect world, when it isn’t.  My guests today both contacted me separately, but I felt it was a good opportunity to share that good and the bad. I’m hoping today’s podcast gives those out there who feel they are alone, some encouragement and realization they are NOT alone.

There are so many aspects to the lives my 2 guests with their respective partners which deserve more time than I can give them, but I wanted to give you a taste, an idea of their experiences in an educational, respectful, helpful way, albeit concise. We just address the tip of an iceberg with both my guests.