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Vernel - Gang crime, Prison and the Power of the Mind.
At the age of 12, Vernel was taken to live on the notorious Pembury Estate in Hackney. He saw a man shot dead within the first week.
We discuss how he was drawn into gang crime, his suffering at the hands of the police, and how the Hackney riots happened, and threw his life into even more chaos.
This is a story of determination, of how, despite everything stacked against him, Vernel turned his life around, starting with mastering the power of the mind.
Vernel is now the founder and CEO of the Social Enterprise Inside Out.
In this interview we cover:
- Life and survival on one of the most crime ridden estates in London
- How and why people are drawn into the gangs
- Violence on the estates and how gang rivalry begins
- Police attitudes towards the people on the estate and it’s psychological impact
- The Hackney Riots and why it happened
- Life in prison, the home office and judicial failures
- Mental health and survival mode
- The power of the mind and changing the pictures in his brain
- How someone believing in him gave him the confidence to overcome hurdles
- Equine Therapy
- The power of affirmations and meditation
Follow Vernel and his company 'Inside Out' here:
Website: https://insideout.org.uk
TikTok: @insideout_cic
Instagram: @insideout_cic
Location - Ministry Venues: https://www.ministryvenues.com
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If you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.
CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of violence, death, swearing and mentions of suicide.
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7. Chris - Kidney Donation, COVID and the Power of Language
56:52||Season 1, Ep. 76 people die every week waiting for a kidney transplant. In this episode, I talk to Chris, who donated his kidney to his friend Steph at the height of COVID.This is a story of friendship, of how Chris helped his university friend, suffering from Polycystic Kidney Disease, get back to health so that she could continue to be a Mum to her daughter for a long time to come.Chris tells us all about his kidney donation journey, the matching process and the pressures of having life changing surgery during COVID.We discuss the different anxieties he experienced, from the fear of not being a match and being unable to save his friend, to the worry of them being in different hospitals and something happening to his kidney on the way to Steph. But we also talk about the positives of the journey, of sharing a unique experience with his friend, the benefits of having a cause and the surprising health benefits that come from kidney donation.Chris also explains his need to continue raising awareness and the life changing advice given to him by a nurse about the power of language.In this interview we cover:Kidney donation, the matching process and the matching scheme.Polycystic Kidney DiseaseThe emotional impact of donating a kidneyKidney transplant surgery and the different methods usedImmunosuppressantsHow people know they can donate blood but they don't know they can donate a kidneyThe positives of having a causeThe power of languageWhat to do if you're interested in donating a kidneyThanks to Chris for telling his story and Steph for allowing it to be told.Thanks to Eoin Buckley for his help in organising.Follow Chris here: @chrisluck89If you are interested in kidney donation, please visit -Donate A Kidney: https://www.donateakidney.co.uk/Give A Kidney: https://www.giveakidney.org/Location - Mill Street Studios:https://www.1millstreet.com/Thanks to Anna Burrows and Bryher Williams for their input.Please follow us at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@myneighbourtheheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of death.#AreYourKidneysOK #WorldKidneyDay #KidneyHealth #OrganDonation, #KidneyDonor, #KidneyTransplant, #KidneyWarrior, #ShareYourSpare
6. Gina - Surrogacy, Friendship and Filling People's Buckets Up
01:01:53||Season 1, Ep. 6In today's episode, I talk to Gina, who is a surrogate, who has given birth to 3 children for parents who could not carry their own.Gina tells us all about her surrogacy journey's, how she found the couple she was going to be a surrogate for and the disappointments of failed embryo transfers. Pregnancy, labour, and the feeling she got watching another couple become parents for the first time, knowing she helped to make it happen.We also discuss feminism and the anti surrogacy community, and she gives us her unique take on how helping others makes you feel good.She also answers one of the most common questions posed to surrogates, how is it possible to give a baby to another couples when you have given birth to it?We also discussed...The intention agreement that needs to be in place before the embryo transfer begins Why the surrogate and intended parents need to do a willBelly buds and how to connect the intended parents with the baby even if they’re not carrying itThe highs and lows of embryo transfers Feminism and the Anti surrogacy moment Pregnancy and labourHow surrogacy is not about giving a baby away but giving the baby back to its parentsThe most common misconceptions around surrogacySurrogacy laws and how they need to change Hyperemesis - severe vomiting in pregnancyHow the support of Gina’s husband was so important How there are many types of family buildingThanks to Gina Kinson for telling her story - you can follow Gina here - https://www.instagram.com/gink49You can follow Fran Simmons, whose story it also is, here - https://www.instagram.com/100yearsinthemaking/Gina works for 'My Surrogacy Journey' you can follow them here - https://www.instagram.com/officialmysurrogacyjourney/Thanks to Dan Fanshawe and Tom Walker for the introduction.Thanks to Sarah Powell, Bryher Williams and Felicity Papendieck for their input.Location: NoStar Studios - https://nostars.ukPlease follow My Neighbour The Hero at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/myneighbourtheheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of pregnancy loss.#newpodcastalert #podcastseries #femalepodcasters #podcastinterviews #podcastcommunity #surrogacy
5. Ryan - Surviving The Boxing Day Tsunami
53:38||Season 1, Ep. 5In today's episode, I meet Ryan. 20 years ago, on Boxing Day, 2004, over a quarter of a million people were killed, across 14 countries in the Indian Ocean Tsunami. At 11am, when the Tsunami hit Krabbi in Thailand, Ryan was snorkelling in the sea.Ryan will be telling his story of survival, of how a dream holiday with his girlfriend and his friends turned into his worst nightmare. We discuss what happened that day, and its aftermath. His experience of being treated in a Thai hospital which was overrun and how fellow holidaymakers and local communities kicked in to action to help.He also tells me about the long term physical and mental effects of the Tsunami and the importance of getting help, along with what he’s learnt about people and how they can be the light in the darkest of times.We talked about -A detailed description of what happened when the Tsunami hit and the immediate aftermath.The terrifying experience of losing his girlfriend and friendHis injuries and the fight against bacteria that had never been seen beforeHis experiences in an Thai hospital that was completely overrun, the language barrier and stories of the kindness of peopleTheir decision to hire a speed boat rather than a long tail boat that saved lives.His unique journey to the Bangkok hospitalThe kindness of people and how people are mostly goodThe importance of seeking help and allowing yourself to be supportedPTSD and Cognitive Behavioural TherapyHow nature brings peaceSurvivors GuiltThanks to Ryan Kelly for sharing his story and Abi Kelly for making it happen.Thanks to Jamie Moore and Bryher Williams for their input.Location: NoStar Studios - https://nostars.ukPlease follow My Neighbour The Hero at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/myneighbourtheheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of death and graphic descriptions of injury.#newpodcastalert #podcastseries #femalepodcasters #podcastinterviews #podcastcommunity #tsunami
4. Tyler - Showmen, Sexuality and Traveller Pride
43:24||Season 1, Ep. 4Tyler is a Showman and the founder of Traveller Pride. We discuss growing up on the fair and how he felt being bisexual in a community where being gay was seen as a bit of joke, and where reputation is your lifeblood. How he managed to overcome his fears of bringing shame on the family, and being rejected by the community he loved, to embrace his sexuality and start the very first Traveller Pride.We talked about -What it was like growing up on the fair and being different to othersThe Showmen Community, their beliefs and values and the importance of family and heritage Being a traveller in the LGBTQ community The pride of the Showmen community and the importance of appearance ‘the flash’Traveller education What it was like moving into a house for the first time after living in a trailerHis experience of the Showmen community's views of the LGBTQ community Coming outStarting Traveller Pride The importance of LGBTQ visibility in Traveller communitiesKnowing yourselfCherry Valentine, the Romany Gypsy drag queen and what she did for LGBTQ travellersTyler works as a therapist and has his own private practice.Follow Tyler on X/Twitter - https://x.com/tjhatwellFollow Traveller Pride here:Website - https://www.lgbttravellerpride.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/travellerpride/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lgbttravellerpride/Follow Metro Charities here:Website - https://metrocharity.org.ukInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/METROcharity/Follow London Gypsies and Travellers here:Website - https://www.londongypsiesandtravellers.org.ukInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/londongypsytraveller/Thanks to Barney Addison, Bryher Williams, Felicity Papendieck and Sarah Powell for their input.Please follow us at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/myneighbourtheheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of suicide.#newpodcastalert #podcastseries #femalepodcasters #podcastlaunch #podcastinterviews
3. Angela - Death, Regrets and the Afterlife
42:39||Season 1, Ep. 3In today's episode I meet Angela, who has been a nurse for over 40 years, and for 20 of those she has worked in a hospice.This is the story of how she overcame her fear of death to work in a hospice and what she's learnt about death, regrets and what happens at the end. Angela tells us what can help the grieving process, and how you can use the knowledge of death to live a life where you won’t say ‘I wish I had’ at the end. And for those of you who wouldn't mind a few assurances about life after death (definitely me!) Angela tells us about the experiences she's had that could allude to an afterlife.We talked aboutWorking as a student nurseThe deaths that began her fear of deathThe role of palliative nursesActive listening and communication What happens at the endWhat she’s seen that could allude to the Afterlife.How to live in the knowledge of deathLiving in the now How to avoid saying ‘I wish I had’ at the end. The guilt of the bereaved The kindness of peopleAngela is the Lead Practice at Ellenor Hospice in Gravesend. Follow Ellenor Hospice here: https://ellenor.orgThanks to Basia Wilson at Ellenor Hospice.Thanks to Bryher Williams, Sarah Powell and Jamie Moore for their input.Please follow us at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.CONTENT WARNING: Please note that this podcast features themes of death.#newpodcastalert #podcastseries #femalepodcasters #podcastlaunch #podcastinterviews
2. Sophie - A Life Changing Injury, Skiing and Finding Your People
44:17||Season 1, Ep. 2At the age of 22, Sophie sustained a spinal cord injury which left her paralysed from the chest down. We discuss how she struggled to adapt to life with a disability, in a world where disability isn’t catered to. Grief and friendship loss. But how she found freedom on the slopes, became a Team GB athlete, and how she got to the point where she prefers the life she has now to the life she had before her disability, and how finding her people was one of the biggest factors.We talked about:The injury that changed her lifeRecovery Adapting to life with a wheelchair Grief The effects of a spinal cord injury Sports, Sit-skiing and water skiingTeam GB and finding yourselfAbleismFriendship losses and friendship gainsThe wide ranging benefits of meditationA growth mindset, taking responsibility and resilience Gratefulness and finding the good Community and finding your people Sophie works as a Service Manager for a charity and has her own podcast A Life Less Ordinary.Follow Sophie here: https://www.instagram.com/sophieelwes?igsh=YXlrM2N6OHh0Ym8=Sophie’s podcast: ‘A Life Less Ordinary’ - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/a-life-less-ordinary-with-sophie-elwes/id1514110779Location: Ministry Venues https://www.ministryvenues.com/Back Up Trust: https://www.backuptrust.org.uk/Thanks to Sarah Powell, Bryher Williams and Jamie Moore for their input.Please follow My Neighbour The Hero at:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myneighbourthehero/Twitter: https://x.com/myneighbourheroIf you know of any amazing everyday heroes who you think should appear on this podcast please email myneighbourthehero@gmail.com.#newpodcastalert #podcastseries #femalepodcasters #podcastlaunch #podcastinterviews