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My Mom Died
I Don't Think I Would Be the Same Person If My Mom Hadn't Died.
Season 2, Ep. 5
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Grief changes you whether you want it to or not. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri Segui gets honest about every way losing her mom at 25 changed her: how she thinks about time, who she keeps in her life, the fear of getting close to people again, and why for a long time grief just made her cold. She also talks about the shift, the moment she decided to let grief soften her instead of harden her, and what it looks like to become someone your person would actually be proud of. If you are in the middle of grief and feel like a completely different person, this episode is going to give you language for that.
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