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Some People Are Grieving a Mom Who Is Still Alive | Road to Mother's Day: 2 Days Left
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Not everyone grieving on Mother's Day lost their mom to death. Some people are grieving the mom they needed and never had. A relationship that never recovered. A love they spent years trying to earn.
In this diary entry, Gabri talks about the grief that has no funeral attached to it. The kind that feels invisible on Mother's Day because everyone around you assumes the day is supposed to feel warm. She talks about a conversation she had recently with someone grieving a mom who is still very much alive and how that might be one of the loneliest things a person can carry.
This space is for that too.
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18. Grieving a Mom in a Country That Doesn't Talk About Grief
41:33||Season 2, Ep. 18Grief looks different depending on where in the world you are. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri Segui sits down with Helen and Celine, two women from Germany, one now living in New Zealand, to talk about what losing a mom looks like across different cultures. They cover the shocking differences in bereavement leave, why some cultures are blunt about death while others avoid it entirely, what anticipatory grief feels like when you watch a parent fade from cancer, the guilt of grieving from another country, and grieving not just your mom but the version of yourself you were before she died. Above all, this episode is a reminder that talking about grief openly, even when it makes people uncomfortable, is one of the most healing things you can do. Share in the comments: how does your culture handle grief?
17. Do You Ever Really Move On After Losing Someone?
09:53||Season 2, Ep. 17For years, Gabri Segui believed you never really move on from grief, you just learn to move with it. Then a conversation with a friend at the gym challenged that thinking completely. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri explores the tension between moving on and moving with your grief, why "move on" is one of the most hated phrases grievers hear, and whether both perspectives can actually be true at the same time. She breaks down what moving on really means, why the phrase creates an invisible timeline that does not need to exist, and why having hard conversations with other grievers can shift your entire perspective. Whether you find comfort in moving on or you carry your person forward, this episode is for you. Share in the comments: does moving on or moving with resonate more with you?
16. The Real Reason You See Signs From Your Dead Loved Ones
17:54||Season 2, Ep. 16After losing someone, you start seeing them everywhere. A cardinal. A butterfly. A song on the radio at the exact moment you needed it. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri Segui breaks down the actual brain chemistry behind why grievers see signs from their loved ones, from how your brain filters emotionally significant information to the grief psychology concept of continuing bonds. She shares her own sign from her mom, the stories her community shared in Grief Circle, and why the relationship with the person you lost does not end when they die, it just changes. Whether you see signs constantly or feel like you never get them, this episode will give you language for what you are experiencing. Share in the comments: what is your sign from your loved one, and when did you last see it?
15. Surviving The First Year Of Losing Your Mom (Q&A)
16:08||Season 2, Ep. 15When you lose someone, grief raises questions that nobody around you seems to know how to answer. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri Segui answers the second round of questions submitted by her community, including how to handle grief guilt, what to do when everyone expects you to be over it, whether you will ever forget the sound of your mom's voice, how to deal with a surviving parent who takes their grief out on you, what to do with a loved one's belongings, and how grief changes your relationship with the things they left behind. She also shares what her mom's last text said, and why she never responded. This is part two of the community Q&A series. Share in the comments: what grief question has never been answered for you?
14. Does the Pain of Losing a Mother Ever Go Away? (Q&A)
18:03||Season 2, Ep. 14After losing someone, grief raises questions that most answers just do not touch. In this episode of My Mom Died, Gabri Segui answers real questions submitted by her community about what grief actually looks like from the inside. She covers how to introduce new people to a mom they will never meet, how to celebrate milestones after losing a parent, what to do when dreams of your person feel more real than waking life, how to handle family members who take their grief out on you, what grief looks like when the relationship was complicated, and what a medium told her about what her mom experienced crossing over. This is part one of two. Share in the comments: what is the one grief question you have never been able to find the answer to?
13. These Books Changed How I Process Loss
12:20||Season 2, Ep. 13When you lose someone, the first thing most people do is reach for a book. In this episode, Gabri Segui walks through the grief books that actually helped her after losing her mom, including Death by Steve Case, Grief and Grits by Marsha Gray Hill, Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go by Gina Moffa, and Motherless Daughters. She also shares two honorable mentions that helped her understand grief in unexpected ways. Whether you are newly grieving or years into it, this is a practical reading list from someone who has been through it.
12. How I Got Through the Worst Days of Grief
19:36||Season 2, Ep. 12After losing her mom, Gabri Segui stopped eating, lost her friends, and spent so much time on her couch that the cushions had a permanent indent from her body. In this episode she talks about the habits that pulled her out of the worst days of grief and changed how she carries loss every single day. She covers her "Pockets of Happy" gratitude practice, finding the right therapist, grief journaling, talking about the people you have lost, and building community when grief has left you completely alone. Whether you are in early grief or years into it and still struggling, this episode offers practical tools that actually work. Share in the comments: what is one habit that has helped you get through grief?
11. What Does Therapy Actually Do for Grief (Because It's Not What You Think)
23:57||Season 2, Ep. 11Grief therapy is not what most people expect. In this episode, Gabri Segui walks through her full therapy journey after losing her mom, from ghosting her therapist for a year after the loss to finally going back and learning what therapy actually does for grief healing. She covers how to find a grief therapist, what to do when you can't afford therapy, why grief is not something to solve, and the tools that changed how she carries her loss every single day. Whether you are considering therapy for grief or wondering if it is even worth it, this episode will give you an honest and realistic picture of what the process actually looks like. Share in the comments: have you tried therapy for grief, and what has your experience been?
10. Why Does Grief Make Me So Sensitive to Everything Now
13:52||Season 2, Ep. 10It's normal to feel like grief made you stop caring. But what if it made you care more about everything instead? In this episode, Gabri explores the tension between grief awareness and grief anxiety, what the salience network in your brain actually does after experiencing death, and why oversensitivity after loss is not grief done wrong. Whether you are navigating the loss of a parent or wondering why ordinary moments suddenly feel unbearable, this episode offers language for what you are feeling. Share in the comments: what is one ordinary moment that hits differently now that your person is gone?