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S3E15. The power of reflection and ending the year with purpose

Season 3, Ep. 15

In this special and final episode of Stay at the Top Season 3, I’m reflecting on the season that’s been, sharing personal insights about my next chapter, and offering tools and reflections for anyone navigating transitions—whether in their personal or professional life.


As 2024 wraps up, I know this time of year naturally invites reflection—on what’s worked, what hasn’t, and what needs to change. Whether you’re navigating a personal shift, a career change, or just feeling ready to reset, this episode is packed with tools and reflections to help you step into the next chapter with clarity and intention.


In this episode, I share:


- A recap of Season 3 and a glimpse into my upcoming life chapter as I prepare for motherhood.

- The importance of being fully present and how I’m using this intention to reshape my commitments.

- Why it’s critical to ruthlessly prioritise what matters and let go of the rest.

- Insights into maintaining identity and career during major life transitions.

- How habits evolve and the micro habits that can ground you through change.

- The value of seeking and accepting support early in the process.


Key Quotes:


"Surrendering to this next chapter means letting go of how things have always been done, and embracing the unknown with authenticity and alignment."


"I’ve surprised myself by letting go of control and structure."


"I’m really looking forward to seeing how my habits and routines adapt in this new season of life."



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