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"Caring for Mum and Dad drove me to breaking point" | Chris's story
Season 2, Ep. 8
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Over the span of a decade, Chris cared for his parents, who both had dementia.
An only child with very little extended family, Chris assumed the role of primary carer without much discussion. He juggled parenting his own son, working full-time in the emergency services, and his caregiving role. And eventually, he reached breaking point.
In this episode, he talks about the constant battle with a system that was supposed to support him, and the importance of looking after yourself as a carer.
Further resources:
- Find out more about Dementia UK and the life-changing support of Admiral Nurses
- Learn more about how dementia can affect relationships and roles
- Discover ways you can look after yourself as a carer
- Learn more about financial and legal support
- Read personal stories from people living with a diagnosis, their family members and friends
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