Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast | Covert Manipulation | Systemic Gaslighting | Cultural Conditioning | Untangling Toxic Patterns

Let our latest book Scapegoated https://amzn.to/4dltioCYou feel something sharp and real. Then, before anyone else can dismiss you, that voice inside already has. It tells you you're overreacting or being dramatic. It feels like your own thinking. It's not.This episode explores the hidden layer of narcissistic abuse that survivors rarely talk about—the moment your internal world becomes the place where dismissal lives. Not because of something wrong with you, but because you learned it. Because you adapted. Because sometimes questioning yourself feels safer than being questioned.When you've been told enough times that your feelings are too much, your instincts are off, your version of events isn't trustworthy, something shifts. You don't wait for someone else to dismiss you anymore. You do it first. You pre-emptively question:• That conversation that didn't sit right—was it really wrong, or are you reading into it?• That need for rest, space, time alone—aren't you just being lazy?• That hurt someone caused—are you allowed to feel it, or are you being too sensitive?• Your own anger, clarity, boundaries—are they reasonable, or are you being difficult?This isn't confusion. This is learned doubt running on autopilot. This is what happens when you internalize the exact dismissal patterns that were used on you. The exhausting part? It doesn't feel like something being done to you anymore. It feels like how you think. Like being rational. Like considering all sides. But what it actually is, is you protecting someone else's comfort before you even speak your truth out loud.Women are taught this early and reinforced constantly. Be accommodating. Keep the peace. Don't make waves. Your clarity gets called difficult. Your anger gets called hysteria. Your boundaries get called cold. So you learn to moderate yourself in advance. To question your own responses so no one else has to. To audit your emotional experience like it needs approval before you're allowed to feel it.Here's what makes this so difficult to see: this pattern isn't accidental. It's systemic. A woman who questions her own instincts is easier to manage. A woman who argues with her own feelings doesn't push back as hard. A woman who's already convinced herself she's overreacting won't make waves. This culture is built to keep you doubting yourself.But when you gaslight yourself, you're not the problem. You're responding to a system that's been gaslighting you all along. The difference is you've internalized it now. And the first step to changing that is seeing it clearly—not to shame yourself, but to recognize what's actually happening.In this episode, Lynn breaks down exactly how this pattern works, why it feels so much like your own thinking, and what happens in those moments when you catch yourself mid-feeling, already arguing with what you know. You'll discover why your instincts aren't the problem, why you don't need permission to feel what you feel, and what becomes possible when you stop doing the work of dismissing yourself before anyone else can.This isn't about becoming angry or reactive. It's about recognizing a learned pattern for what it is—not the truth about you, but a response to systems that were never fair to begin with. It's about what happens when you stop questioning yourself first and start trusting what you know. When the internal noise finally quiets and clarity emerges.If you've ever caught yourself mid-feeling and immediately started talking yourself out of it, if you've apologized for having a need before anyone asked, if every thought in your head gets countered by another thought that questions it—this episode is for you. It's for anyone who's learned to make themselves smaller, who's adapted to systems that said their reality was optional, who's tired of the constant internal argument.

Get our latest book Scapegoated: https://amzn.to/4dltioCYou remember it clearly. You were sure of what you felt. And then someone said four words that made your entire reality dissolve. "You're being too sensitive." In that moment, your brain doesn't just doubt one thought—it questions everything. This isn't an accident. It's a pattern.This episode pulls back the curtain on something so widespread it's almost invisible. It's not about one bad relationship or one dismissive person. It's about a cultural system that's been systematically teaching women to distrust their own perceptions since childhood. And the most dangerous part? You're probably doing it to yourself now without even realizing it.Throughout this conversation, we explore:• How girls and boys get fundamentally different feedback about the same experiences—and why that matters decades later• The adaptive survival strategy your brain created that's now become a prison in your adult life• Why women who state things clearly and confidently get labeled "aggressive" while those who constantly doubt themselves get called "easygoing"• How people who want to avoid accountability deliberately exploit this trained self-doubt• The exact moment when you're not being indecisive—you're being trained• Why your perception is actually more reliable than you've been taught to believeBut here's what you need to hear right now: Your second-guessing isn't weakness. It's evidence. It's proof that you were navigating an environment that needed you uncertain in order to function. And once you see that pattern, everything changes.This episode isn't about fixing yourself overnight or suddenly becoming certain about everything. It's about recognizing when that automatic doubt kicks in and asking one critical question: Is this doubt coming from new information, or is it coming from old training? That question alone is transformational. Because the moment you can distinguish between them, you get your reality back. You stop needing someone else's permission to trust what you know. You start recognizing that you are a reliable witness to your own life—and that your perception is credible evidence, not a problem to be solved.If you've ever felt gaslit but couldn't quite name it, if you've repeatedly apologized for things that weren't your fault, if you second-guess every boundary you try to set—this episode is speaking directly to your experience. And more importantly, it's offering something that our culture rarely gives women: validation that your doubt was taught, not inherent. Which means it can be unlearned. Listen now to understand what certainty about your own reality actually costs in a patriarchal system—and why reclaiming it is the most subversive thing you can do.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

Get our latest book: https://amzn.to/4dltioCYou've spent years being blamed for things that weren't your fault. Every family conflict, every sibling's mistake, every parent's bad mood somehow became your responsibility. You walked into rooms already tense and left feeling like you caused it all. If this resonates, you've experienced one of the most damaging dynamics in families and relationships—being the designated scapegoat.But here's what most people don't understand: being the scapegoat isn't about you or anything you actually did. It's a deliberate strategy in controlling systems where someone needs to maintain a spotless image at your expense.In this episode, we explore what it really means to be the family scapegoat and why this role emerges in dysfunctional families and toxic relationships. We're not just talking about unfair blame—we're talking about a system that depends on your designated role to function.You might recognize yourself in these experiences:• Being held responsible for family tension that existed long before you were old enough to understand it• Taking the fall when siblings made mistakes because the real culprit faced no consequences• Getting blamed when a parent or partner lost their temper, regardless of what you actually did• Hearing "you're too sensitive" or "you're the problem" so often you started believing it• Becoming hypervigilant about everyone's mood while losing touch with your own needs• Watching siblings or family members echo the blame to avoid becoming targets themselves• Realizing that every holiday or family gathering becomes a minefield where you carry past conflicts aloneThe psychological weight of this role is crushing. You learn to scan every room for tension. You apologize for things you didn't do. You gaslight yourself because everyone around you has been telling you the same distorted story for so long. You might have spent years trying to be perfect, thinking that if you could just be good enough, the blame would stop.But here's what's even more damaging: the system becomes dependent on having you as the problem. Without a scapegoat, the whole dynamic crumbles. Which is exactly why the backlash is so intense when you try to break free from this role.As you listen to this episode, you'll begin to understand the difference between responsibility and blame. You'll start to recognize the patterns that kept you stuck in a role that was never rightfully yours. You'll feel the shift that comes from truly understanding that being singled out as the problem had nothing to do with your worth and everything to do with someone else's need to avoid accountability.This isn't just about naming what happened to you. It's about recognizing that the burden you've been carrying was never yours to carry in the first place. And that realization? That's where healing begins.If you've ever wondered why you were the one who got blamed, why your feelings were dismissed, or why you became the convenient target for everyone else's dysfunction—this episode is for you. Listen now and start untangling the story you've been told about yourself from the truth of who you actually are.

Get our latest https://amzn.to/4dltioCThere's a weight in your chest before you ask for something you need. Your partner's been distant, you want to talk about it, but suddenly you're rehearsing how to bring it up without sounding needy. Or you're drowning at work, need help, but asking feels like admitting failure. That hesitation? That's not you. That's generations of conditioning.This episode pulls back the curtain on something most women experience but rarely name: the deep, visceral shame around making requests in romantic relationships, friendships, workplaces, and family dynamics. It's not random. It's not your fault. And it's absolutely intentional.You'll explore:• Why girls get socialized into reading the room while boys get socialized into taking up space• What happens when you finally speak up after months of silence (and why people suddenly call you "difficult")• How patriarchal systems don't need enforcers when women are already policing themselves• The trap of being blamed for asking AND blamed for not asking sooner• Why your partner treats reasonable requests like you're asking for the moon• The difference between needing support and being told that need makes you weak• How family dynamics teach you that your role is to be "easy" and "low maintenance"• What it means when the people around you resist the "new version" of youThis isn't about blaming you for systems you didn't create. It's about seeing those systems clearly so you can stop enforcing them on yourself. The shame you carry around having needs? It was handed to you. What's learned can be unlearned.You'll walk away understanding why asking for what you need feels dangerous, how that danger was constructed, and what shifts when you finally see this as a cultural pattern instead of a personal failing. You'll recognize the moments you've policed yourself and understand what that cost you. More importantly, you'll start seeing your needs not as problems to be solved, but as information about what you require to live authentically.This episode doesn't tell you to stop needing things. It asks a completely different question: what if the shame isn't yours to carry? What if the real problem isn't that you want too much, but that systems benefit when women want nothing at all?If you've ever felt guilty for having boundaries, questioned whether your expectations were "too high," or found yourself apologizing before you even asked—this conversation is for you. Listen to understand how deeply these patterns run, and what becomes possible when you refuse to shrink anymore.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

Get our latest: https://amzn.to/4dltioCIf you grew up hearing that your opinions didn't matter, that financial decisions weren't your concern, or that your role was to support silently while the men in your family led—you've experienced patriarchal subservience as a control tactic. This episode exposes how narcissists and people avoiding accountability deliberately undermine women's autonomy and financial independence to maintain power.Patriarchal subservience isn't just about traditional gender roles or cultural expectations. It's a calculated, strategic mechanism used in narcissistic family systems and relationships to keep you dependent, disempowered, and trapped. When someone enforces these restrictions, they're not preserving family values—they're preserving their dominance. This episode explores the psychological architecture of this control tactic and how it operates across different family structures and relationships.You'll examine scenarios you might recognize immediately: being steered away from education or career development under the guise of "preparing for marriage," having your career ambitions consistently minimized as unrealistic, being told your job was "just for pocket money" even when you contributed significantly, or finding yourself in relationships where you couldn't access financial information or make independent money decisions. Perhaps you experienced the double bind where sacrificing your independence made you a burden, but pursuing independence made you selfish. Maybe extended family reinforced these restrictions by praising you for being "supportive" when you abandoned your own goals, or had in-laws reinforce that your role was to support silently, never to lead or decide.This episode doesn't just identify the pattern—it examines why financial independence is such a threatening concept to someone who needs to maintain control. When you can support yourself, make your own decisions, and build your own security, you become far harder to manipulate. So the person in power systematically creates barriers to your financial literacy, career development, and resource accumulation while disguising it as protection, tradition, or concern for your wellbeing. You'll explore how this looks across different life stages: as a daughter watching your brothers get funded while you're told marriage is your future, as a young woman being discouraged from developing skills that would make you independent, and as an adult in relationships where your contributions are dismissed but your dependence is demanded.The particularly damaging aspect is how this dynamic gets framed as love. The person enforcing restrictions isn't saying "I want to control you"—they're saying "I want to take care of you." This makes it incredibly difficult to recognize what's happening and even harder to question it without feeling ungrateful or selfish. You'll understand how the person benefiting from your subservience had every reason to maintain those barriers and convince you they were natural, necessary, or even for your own good.You'll also discover why your lack of financial independence or career development wasn't a reflection of your actual capabilities—it was the predictable result of systematic barriers designed to keep you dependent. When you're consistently excluded from financial discussions, told your input isn't needed, or have your concerns dismissed, you internalize a false belief about your competence. This episode helps you separate what you actually can do from what you were prevented from doing.As you listen, you'll gain clarity on how enforced patriarchal subservience operates as a specific scapegoating tactic and why recognizing it fundamentally changes your understanding of your past struggles. You'll see the connection between financial control and emotional control, understand why building independence now feels so overwhelming, and recognize that the barriers you face aren't personal failings.

Get our latest: https://amzn.to/4dltioCYou book a therapy appointment and immediately feel guilty. You say no to a friend and feel like a bad person. You take a mental health day and spend hours justifying it. That guilt isn't random—and it's not telling you the truth about who you are.In this episode, we explore why women are conditioned to feel ashamed for prioritizing their own mental health, and what that guilt is actually protecting. This isn't motivational self-care messaging about bubble baths and indulgence. This is about understanding the system designed to keep women in service roles, running on empty, and questioning their own needs.What you'll discover in this conversation:• Why saying no feels impossible even when you have no capacity left• How cultural conditioning creates a specific kind of guilt around mental health• What happens when women finally set boundaries—and why the pushback comes• The difference between real self-care and the distraction of wellness culture• How guilt functions as a tool to keep you compliant and accommodating• Why people closest to you often resist when you start prioritizing yourself• The connection between emotional labor, unpaid work, and your mental health• How to recognize when guilt is protecting someone else's comfort instead of your well-beingMany women describe the same experience: the moment they prioritize their mental health, they're accused of being self-centered, of having changed, of being dramatic. That resistance isn't random either. It's the system trying to pull you back into a role that was convenient for everyone but you.Listening to this episode, you'll begin to see the guilt differently. Not as proof that you're doing something wrong, but as evidence that the conditioning is working exactly as designed. You'll start to understand what your guilt is actually protecting, and you'll recognize that taking care of your mental health isn't luxury or indulgence—it's the foundation that makes everything else possible. This shift changes what you're willing to tolerate in every relationship and situation in your life.If you've ever felt guilty for having needs, for being tired, for not being able to show up for everyone else the way you've been taught you should—this episode is for you. Listen now and start questioning the stories you've been told about who you're supposed to be.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

You know that bone-deep exhaustion that comes from realizing you've been giving everything while receiving nothing back? That particular kind of tired that happens when you believed love meant always being the one to adjust, accommodate, and bend?This episode explores a cultural lesson so deeply embedded in how women are raised that it feels like truth: if you really love someone, you give without limits. You sacrifice without complaint. You meet every need, anticipate every want, and asking for anything back means you're selfish or your love isn't pure enough.But here's what survivors of imbalanced relationships keep describing: that framework was rigged from the start.**What you'll discover in this conversation:**• The specific ways "unconditional giving" shows up in your daily patterns—and why you probably didn't notice how lopsided things had become• How cultural conditioning teaches girls to measure their worth by how much they sacrifice, while boys learn the exact opposite• The moment when exhaustion finally cracks the illusion—and why guilt rushes in right after• What happens when one person's willingness to give becomes the other person's entitlement to receive• Why your resentment about uneven giving might feel like personal failure (and why that feeling is part of the design)• The difference between healthy generosity and exploitation dressed up in the language of partnership• How this pattern shows up beyond romantic relationships—in friendships, family dynamics, and workplacesThis episode doesn't pretend the answer is simple scorekeeping in relationships. It's something deeper: recognizing when you've internalized a system that benefits from your endless labor and calling it love.**What you'll understand when you listen:**You'll start to see the difference between genuine choice and conditioning masquerading as choice. You'll recognize that your exhaustion isn't a personal failing—it's the logical outcome of being positioned as the emotional manager, the household keeper, the one whose value comes from how well you serve others.Get our latest book: Scapegoated https://amzn.to/4dltioCBut more than that, you'll begin to understand what real reciprocity actually feels like. Not transactional scorekeeping, but a fundamental shift in how you see your own worth and what you're allowed to expect from the people you care about.Listening to this will change how you notice the small moments: who remembers the birthdays, who apologizes first, who stays up late finishing tasks others abandoned. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. But that clarity is where change actually begins.If you've ever felt guilty for needing something, for saying no, or for noticing that one person is doing all the emotional labor while the other person benefits—this episode is talking directly to you.This is what happens when we start examining the cultural lies we were taught about love, sacrifice, and what we're supposed to accept in the name of partnership. The conversation you need to hear is waiting.Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for Masculinity

EP 169 SEO TITLE: Patriarchy Traps Men: Scapegoating & Emotional FreedomSUBTITLE: Why questioning rigid male roles makes you a threat to the systemMETA DESCRIPTION:You grew up hearing that real men don't cry, that vulnerability is weakness, that showing emotion means you're failing at being male. Maybe you questioned it anyway. Maybe you asked why your father could rage but you couldn't express pain. Maybe you wanted emotional connection in a relationship and got punished for it. Now you're wondering if there's something broken inside you, or if something else is actually going on.This episode explores the invisible cage that patriarchal systems build around men—especially the ones who refuse to stay locked inside. It's not about blaming individual men who are also trapped in the system. It's about understanding how rigid gender roles serve those in power by keeping everyone small, silent, and controllable.What happens when you start to break free from these expectations? When you begin questioning why you have to be dominant but not authentic, strong but emotionally shut down, successful but never vulnerable? The people who benefit from your compliance don't let that slide easily:• The scapegoat son who questions his father's harshness and suddenly gets labeled ungrateful• The husband who seeks emotional intimacy in a marriage built on control dynamics• The man who admits he's struggling and watches family members mobilize to put him back in his place• The partner who wants a "sensitive man" until your authenticity threatens their power• The family member who uses shame as a weapon when you stop performing the role they assigned youThis isn't random. It's a pattern with a purpose. The system that demands your conformity doesn't actually want you to evolve—it needs you to stay exactly where you are. Your growth is a threat. Your emotional authenticity exposes the immaturity of those around you. Your questions reveal that the rules they've built don't actually make sense.You've probably spent years internalizing their message that something is wrong with you. You tried to squeeze yourself back into that box, believing that if you could just be the right kind of man, the criticism would stop. It won't, because the problem was never you. The problem is a system designed to keep you trapped.What if the scapegoating wasn't because you were too much or not enough? What if it happened because you were brave enough to recognize something fundamental was broken about the whole setup? What if your refusal to conform wasn't a failure—it was the moment you started becoming truly human?This episode walks you through how patriarchal family systems and relationships use rigid male roles to maintain control, how scapegoating targets the ones who question the rules, and what it actually means when you're punished for stepping out of line. You'll start seeing the patterns that made you believe you were the problem. You'll understand why your growth felt threatening to people who claimed to love you. And you'll begin separating what you've been told about yourself from who you actually are.The man who wants emotional connection, who questions harmful patterns, who refuses to stay small—that's not weakness. That's evidence that you recognized the cage around you and started looking for the door. This episode is for everyone who's ever felt trapped in a role they never asked to play, blamed for seeing through a system designed to keep them blind. If you've spent years wondering what's wrong with you, it might be time to question what's wrong with the system instead. Listen to understand what's actually been happening—and why escaping it feels so threatening to everyone invested in keeping you confined.

That hesitation before asking for something you need? That's not a personal flaw—it's learned. This episode explores how patriarchal socialization teaches women to prioritize everyone else's comfort over their own legitimacy.From childhood, girls receive consistent messages that their preferences are secondary, their boundaries inconvenient, their voices less important than keeping the peace. These aren't random moments. They're patterns documented across generations, embedded in how families function, workplaces operate, and relationships form.But here's what most people miss: when you grow up internalizing that your needs don't matter, you stop even asking yourself what you want. You start minimizing yourself before anyone else has to do it for you. And in relationships with power imbalances—especially those involving controlling or dismissive partners—this dynamic becomes the perfect setup.This episode examines:• The specific gender differences in how children are corrected and encouraged (and why those differences compound over time)• Why your guilt around rest, boundaries, and self-care isn't personal weakness—it's cultural conditioning• The invisible labor women do managing everyone else's emotional well-being, while their own needs disappear• What it means when you can recite everyone else's preferences but don't know your own• How narcissistic and controlling partners benefit from a system that was already set up to center their needs• The language used to keep you small: "bossy," "demanding," "selfish," "too much"What makes this different from typical discussions about self-care: this isn't about individual self-improvement. It's about seeing the system that taught you those rules in the first place—and recognizing that you have the same right to needs as everyone else.You'll walk away from this episode with a clearer understanding of where your self-silencing actually comes from. Not as something to blame yourself for, but as something you can finally see clearly. You'll understand why asserting your needs feels so dangerous, and what that danger actually is. Most importantly, you'll recognize the difference between being considerate and being invisible.This conversation matters if you've ever felt guilty for having needs. If you've realized you don't actually know what you want. If you've stayed quiet to keep the peace. If you've questioned whether asking for something makes you selfish. If you're recovering from a relationship where your needs were never centered, this is about understanding the larger context that made that possible.Listen if you're ready to untangle what you actually believe about yourself from what you were taught to believe.