For many daughter's it's very hard to recognize and understand the connection between the pain and unhappiness you feel and you're mothers treatment of you. Why is that? Because as daughters we have a longing for our mother's love and approval. We want to feel accepted by our mothers, we want our mother's to be proud of us. It's the longing and desire to feel loved and cared for by your mother that can dull the pain you feel when your mother says or does something hurtful or rejects you. As daughters we are very quick to accept the abuse because we want our mothers love. The truth is as daughters we are hardwired to need our mom for survival, our mom on the other hand is not hardwired to need us for survival. And while we like to believe that being a "good mother" is something that comes naturally and automatically, it's not.
