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How to motivate a struggling team (without the gaslighting)
Ep. 895
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895. Is your team "going through the motions"? Before you reach for another inspirational speech, Rachel Cooke has a reality check: Inspiration is not the antidote to a motivation crisis.
In this episode, Rachel introduces the concept of "Motivational Gaslighting"—the trap leaders fall into when they use empty enthusiasm to mask systemic exhaustion. If engagement is tanking, it’s not an attitude problem; it’s an environment problem.
In this episode, you’ll learn:- The 5 real killers of motivation: Why uncertainty, workplace loneliness, and invisible progress are draining your team’s tank.
- Safety over stoke: How to provide stability and direction when AI, the economy, and shifting priorities feel like a constant threat.
- The loneliness loop: Why "collaborating" on Slack isn't the same as "connecting," and how to fix it without adding more meetings.
- The "gap vs. the gain": Using a simple psychological shift to give your team concrete proof that their work is actually working.
- Energy audits: How to identify and kill the "meaningless work" and bureaucracy that empty your team’s reserves.
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