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Pants on Fire - Lying

Ep. 2

Let’s be honest — we all lie. Some lies are small and polite. Others are… slightly more elaborate and involve fake résumés, secret second lives, or pretending you read the terms and conditions.

In this episode of Messy Minded, Jess explores why we lie, how we lie, and what all this deception says about being human. From white lies to whoppers, from gaslighting to government spin, lying turns out to be less about evil and more about survival, social finesse, and the occasional panic response at a dinner party.

We’ll break down the psychology behind lying liars, the different “colors” of lies (yes, that’s a thing), and real stories of people who took dishonesty way too far. Welcome special guest, William! No lie — it’s a good one.

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