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Revisiting: Feeling The Holiday Stress? Here's a framework for more ease during full times (Ep 6 ReRelease)

Ep. 105

The holidays are about to envelop us in a way that feels extra sweet. This year marks 2 years since the word “pandemic” became a part of our daily lexicon. 


The holiday season hasn’t felt normal for a while, which might mean that the pressure around it feels more emotionally intense than usual. Maybe there’s pressure to make up for lost time, coupled with a desire to make sure things are just absolutely perfect for everyone.  From gifts to making and sharing great food, to how you choose to spend your time, there’s so much pressure to make sure that everything you do makes everyone else happy. 


But what about you? 


Before we get into the thick of holiday dinners and gatherings and gift-giving, it’s important to figure out how to include yourself on the list of people you during this (or any) busy time.


You deserve a moment to create a doable framework around the holidays that is life-giving for you


Continuing our month-long revisit on the topic of overwhelm, Karlee taps back into the wisdom of Dr. Maria Sirois. In a timely message before we enter the holiday season, she dives deep into how we can continue to care for ourselves through these busy months, and any other “full” phases we might encounter in our lives. 


This notion of “self-care” is no longer just about getting enough sleep and going to the gym a few times a week. It’s all about knowing how to deal with challenging people in challenging circumstances…and in challenging times. Maria outlines beautifully how to make a really small—but hugely transformative—shift in our fullest times so that we still get to experience what we want more of in our life. 


If you’re ready to remember the importance of self and create pathways for your own nourishment this holiday season, then this episode is for you. 


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • How to take a pause and ask a life-giving question to create openness within yourself (16:17)
  • The three-step framework to guide you through the holidays (24:41)
  • What Maria has learned about navigating the holidays (26:32)
  • How to take the pressure off of giving the perfect gifts (30:12)
  • How to consciously craft the holidays in a way that gives you life (32:44)
  • Giving yourself permission to reframe stress-inducing holiday rituals (43:10)


Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 

Maria Sirois’ Website

Contact Maria Sirois

Job Crafting – Amy Wrzesniewski on creating meaning in your own work


Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.com


Connect With Karlee: 

Website

LinkedIn

Instagram


Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

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