Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain


Take A Minute: How to make wisdom-based decisions at your own pace

Ep. 94

Why can't I keep up with everyone else?

Why don't I have the energy or the answers yet?

Am I missing out on an opportunity, or is it just going to put me even further behind?

If any of these thoughts sound relatable, you could be comparing yourself to a single way of working and living. The one that’s become our cultural norm. The one that’s frankly just not working.

If all of that grind and hustle got you a life that looks great on paper – but it’s leaving you feeling stuck, drained, and unsatisfied at the end of the day, then something is off. This is an indicator that the way society expects you to run your business and your life doesn’t fit. And that’s okay. 

It’s also okay not to have all the answers right now. You aren't exhausted because something is wrong with you. You’re exhausted because something is right with you.

You see, we’ve been taught one way to operate in work and life: aggressively and immediately. 

But as more women occupy seats at the table, it’s become apparent that this way isn’t sustainable for anyone. 

The women who are truly thriving in our modern economy are the ones who are doing things a little differently.

In this episode, Karlee breaks down the origins of “hustle culture” and "sperm wisdom", and explains why they’re biologically unsustainable in today’s world. She passes down the concept of “egg wisdom” and talks about what it means to operate on a different, less anxious timeline. You’ll hear doable strategies to help shift your mindset and expectations of yourself, your work, and your business. 

If you’re ready to start living in a way that truly works for YOU in our modern economy, then this episode is for you! 

In This Episode, You Will Learn: 

  • Why veering off track is often exactly what you need (2:50)
  • When it’s ok to take your time before making a decision (10:12)
  • The cyclical and selective nature of working and living in the world (14:31)
  • Why it’s okay to not always know the answer (21:47)
  • Red flags that say what was is not working for you (23:11)
  • How daring to be “you” puts your train back in motion (30:35)

Resources Mentioned In This Episode: 

Episode 25: Feeling Stuck or Exhausted? Great, There Is Something Right With You

Book: Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women by Kate Northrup

Episode 3: Phases of Growth

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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.  

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