Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain

To all my perfectionist sisters out there: can we just pause for a moment, and acknowledge that you're living amidst a global pandemic, massive civil unrest, and there's a good chance your job and home life have changed significantly too. All this is happening at once, and yet you feel the need to get everything done, done right, and done right now, right?!So here’s a question for you: what’s the rush when it comes to the little stuff?You’ve had to navigate all this new territory without anyone handing over a roadmap, guiding you on how to make progress. As a recovering perfectionist, this poses unique challenges and barriers to prioritizing your values, feeling calm and clear, and even letting go of the things that don’t require your attention. And brings up another question: Where can you afford to relax a bit without things falling apart?In this episode, Karlee shows you how to locate that roadmap in your life to guide you away from needing things to be perfect and back to a state of clarity and ease. Karlee defines the “perfectionist” lifestyle and what it’s really all about (spoiler alert: it’s not about doing a good job), and what signs along the road indicate that you might be heading back into perfectionism. Karlee also talks specifically about where you can upgrade your life to understanding what needs your attention, and what you can afford to let go of.Tune in to learn how to elevate from a state of perfectionist fear into what gives you nourished fulfillment, both on the job and off.In This Episode, You Will Learn:What is perfectionism? (6:09)The 2 major lessons I’ve learned as a recovering perfectionist. (10:57)What symptoms indicate that perfectionism (12:06)Why cultivating both progress and presence leads to a thriving life. (18:20)4 steps to upgrade from perfectionist fear to freedom. (24:00)How to leverage your body’s information to combat the sensations of perfectionism. (29:28)People Mentioned In This Episode:Dr. Maria SiroisResources Mentioned in This Episode:Navigating a Graceful Transition: Your New Best Life with Karlee Fain and Maria Sirois (Free Online Workshop)Episode 33: How to get clear and sturdy so you can keep rising right nowEpisode 1: One Word That Will Elevate Everything You Do

The message to "go big or go home" is rampant, outdated and unnecessary in our modern economy. It's the professionals that go deep, and intentional, rather than fancy and complicated, that are reaping the benefits of lasting professional growth in our new economy.If you’re constantly feeling the pressure to move from one thing to the next, to the next, always doing the most - and that isn't working for you - it's because you are ready to learn a better way.In our modern culture, women are not given room to digest what is happening in real-time and this is by design - a busy woman can't be nearly as powerful as an intentional woman is.The truth is, growth is not about being “on” all the time. Just like the rest of nature, human women go through phases, too.In this episode, Karlee throws it back to Episode 3 to go deeper into the 4 seasons of growth. You'll learn how to leverage your unique phases, helping you spot where you’re at right now and know which doable steps will take you to the next level so that you can clear busy work off your plate today.Here’s your invitation: Even if you’ve heard Karlee talk about the 4 seasons before before, listen in - now is not a time for more information - it's a time for transformation and that happens when we go deeper into what works rather than trying 20 new things. Something from this episode will resonate with you, and you may find that you’re in a totally different phase of growth now.Tune in learn to leverage your time and skills to bring you satisfying results that spark your best work and sense of self.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why Karlee implements a monthly “culmination week” into her practice. (0:48)Debunking the “no pain, no gain” myth. (7:12)Why self doubt shows up, and what to do about it. (16:24)What to do when you find yourself at a loss for what your next steps should be. (19:04)How to protect your new good ideas so they can take root. (21:47)The key to follow through: how to sustain yourself when you begin working on your project or idea. (24:51)People I Mention:Drew RozellMaria SiroisResources Mentioned in This Episode:The FREE Master Sheet To Guide you Through The 4 Phases of Growth Can Be Found Below Episode 33 at KarleeFain.com/podcastDo Less by Kate NorthrupNavigating a Graceful Transition: Your New Best Life with Karlee Fain and Maria Sirois (Free Online Workshop)Doors Open Soon For The Reclaiming Time Studio Summer Class

Someone just asked you to do something for them, and before you’ve even had the chance to think it through, you find yourself saying, “Sure! I’d love to!” . Then, when the time comes to actually do it, you feel resentment rising within yourself. Familiar?Saying “yes” is a knee-jerk reaction for many of us. Whether you say “yes” out of obligation, genuine excitement, or just muscle memory, that feeling of resentment or exhaustion that follows is a key indicator that it’s time to up your boundary game.But what do you do when someone pushes back on your boundary?Or they call you a b*tch for speaking your mind?In this episode, Karlee interviews Nancy Levin, a boundary-setting master, and author of Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, on how to know what to say on the spot when someone crosses your boundaries and how to respond to pushback.Nancy sheds light on the idea of what a boundary truly is, and why a boundary – by her definition – cannot be crossed by someone else. Instead, you are the only one who can cross your boundary, and you are the only one who can uphold them, too.Tune in to learn to remedy the rising resentment within and reclaim your time and energy through setting and honoring your own boundaries.Some Questions Karlee Asks:What are some signs it's time to upgrade our boundaries? (5:06)What’s a real-life example of how to maintain a boundary once you make one? (11:13)How do people-pleasers finally have time their needs as much as (or even more!) than others’ needs? (24:10)Why do we think setting a boundary makes us selfish? (35:10)Why did you publish a book about boundaries right now? (40:09)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Rewind - why boundaries actually have nothing to do with other people. (5:17)Busting the myth that setting boundaries mean managing other people’s behavior. (13:17)How to say "no" without having to convince or prove yourself. (19:44)3 steps to give yourself permission to consider your own needs at least as much as everyone else. (22:06)Why women have disowned the quality “selfish,” and how fear of fear prioritizing yourself is messing you up. (36:10)Connect with Nancy to Upgrade Your Boundaries and Worth:WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedInYouTubeTwitterResource Mentioned:Find Your True North: A 4-Day Journey to Reconnect and Rediscover You.A FREE Online Event with Nancy Levin from June 15-18th, 2020Worthy by Nancy LevinSetting Boundaries Will Set You Free by Nancy LevinDoors Open Soon For TheReclaiming Time StudioSummer Class