Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain

You’re working as hard as you can, trying to get everything possible done before someone or something else calls for your attention. When you first started your career, it felt essential to answer all those calls, to stretch yourself, and appear superhuman to your coworkers, clients, and boss.Here’s the truth: Hustling can only get you so far. What worked then may not work for you now. In fact, it may hinder your ability to be productive, connect with others, and ultimately take care of yourself along the way. In this episode, Karlee interviews Marla Mattenson, who is an internationally recognized expert that works with thought leaders and partners on all topics surrounding love and business. She effectively utilizes her background in neuroscience and mathematics to guide individuals to unlock their passion, financial success, and joy.Throughout our conversation, you’re going to hear Marla’s take on the five types of intimacy and practical tools to help you succeed in life, love, and at work. She breaks down why “hustle culture” is unsustainable, five steps to learning to receive, and how to create space in your schedule.Tune in to learn Marla Mattenson’s practical tips to staying focused, and getting focused, grounded, and present.Some Questions Karlee Asks: How does working in neurology and mathematics give you a different perspective on intimacy and relationships? (8:03)How do driven women learn to surrender and relax without things falling apart? (12:27)What ways are you seeing the collective consciousness present within women right now in your practice? (20:10)What does it look like to increase your capacity to receive? (39:51)How can you ease the transition between who you were and who you’re growing into, when the people around you don't understand that you are changing? (47:02)In This Episode You'll Learn: Why holding the duality of your heart and mind is essential to intimacy, life, and business. (8:14)What it means to truly and powerfully surrender. (12:56)Why it’s essential to schedule space and creative time to stay grounded and present. (16:42)How hustling is both initially effective and extremely limiting. (25:29)What it means to be open to receiving. (26:39)The Five Steps of Receiving. (35:29)Marla’s technique for increasing your capacity to receive. (41:09)Resources Mentioned: Episode 41: Is Your Work Mojo Down? Here’s 4 Types of Nourishment for the Soul of Your CareerConnect with Marla:MarlaMattenson.comInstagram: @theintimacyexpertsPeople Mentioned: Paul Selig

Tell me if this sounds familiar:As you go about your workday, your phone is ringing and pinging constantly, someone in your household continuously interrupts your flow, or maybe you’re the go-to person for many people in your life. Your attention gets split in multiple directions, and by the end of the day, you’re left with the leftover crumbs of energy that you need to apply to the work that’s important to you.So, how can you shift the ways you spend your energy to take care of the things that are important to you?In this episode, Karlee shares the 6 accidental roles that women take on that are not within your job description and ultimately zap your time and energy. She shares research to reorient the ways you see your role within your family, friend circle, and your work environment, shedding light on how to step away from these unofficial jobs and step into your fullest self.Remember: You are not a business in personal liquidation - you are not obligated to sacrifice yourself for others.Tune in to learn the rule to help you promote yourself and resign with grace from the unofficial roles you may have taken on.In This Episode You Will Learn:The foundational mindset that allows women to resign from the unofficial jobs that drain them. (7:18)What 6 unofficial roles women do in addition to their actual jobs. (11:57)What it means to be the zookeeper of everyone else’s emotions. (12:14)How boundaries can help you prevent interruptions while you’re getting work done. (13:46)Why being someone’s first-responder may not actually be in their best interest. (18:23)How being “the fixer” may be of disservice to yourself and others. (20:09)How to let go of the expectations that other people place on you. (23:18)How the perceived need for perfectionism may show up in your life. (25:05)How to become the CEO of "Saving My Own Ass Technologies". (28:14)People I Mention:Dr. Valerie ReinNancy LevinRachel RodgersKris CarrResources I Mention:Episode 22: Patriarchy Stress Disorder: Removing invisible barriers to your joy and fulfillment with Dr. Valerie ReinEpisode 33: Got Information Overload? How to get clear and sturdy so you can keep rising right nowSetting Boundaries Will Set You Free by Nancy LevinHello Seven Podcast with Rachel RodgersStudy: “The Cost of Interrupted Work: More Speed and Stress”Mark, G., Gudith, D., & Klocke, U. (2008). The cost of interrupted work. Proceeding of the Twenty-sixth Annual CHI Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems – CHI 08. Doi: 10.1145/1357054.1357072Study: “Putting a stereotype to the test: The case of gender differences in multitasking costs in task-switching and dual-task situations”Hirsch, P., Koch, I., & Karbach, J. (2019). Putting a stereotype to the test: the case of gender differences in multitasking costs in task-switching and dual-task situations. Plos One, 14(8). Doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0220150The Reclaiming Time Studio: Karlee's Private Group for Women That Run Their Own Business Who Are Done With Burnout

You're working hard, putting in your time and energy and resources, day in and day out. Why aren't you experiencing the same results you'd like to be getting then?There's a myth in our society that good work is the same as hard work, but the truth is that this isn't always the case. At some point, the "I will do all the things" mentality that once helped spur some growth will become the same thing that roadblocks you from getting to the next level. Eventually, your metaphorical blade will dull, and you'll need to take some time to sharpen it again.In this episode, Karlee breaks down The Law of Diminishing Returns, demonstrating how spending all your energy and resources is not always the best strategy to keep moving forward; instead, you may be accidentally sabotaging your best work. She also provides simple and doable strategies for "sharpening your blade" to be clear, focused, and operating at your best in small moments throughout your day.Tune in to learn how you can strategically get more work done in less time, without spending all your energy in one place.In This Episode You Will Learn:What is the Law of Diminishing Returns? (6:28)How to prevent accidentally sabotaging your best results by overworking and over thinking . (12:49)What Karlee’s personal Daily Thrive Practice looks like. (14:18)The 6 Pillars of Working Hours. (16:01)How to incorporate the different types of working hours into your weekly routine to hone your focus and joy. (25:24)Resources:The Reclaiming Time Studio: Karlee's Private Group for Women That Run Their Own Business Who Are Done With BurnoutEpisode 36: Reopening Gently: A Simple Practice to Process What Just Happened and Move Forward with Wisdom and Grace