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Revisiting: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks Baum (Ep 35 ReRelease)

Ep. 106

With a busy schedule running your life, finding both the time and space to breathe, create, and take care of yourself might seem…frivolous.


Like something you can just think about tomorrow. Or, the next day. Or, the next day. 


The next time you find yourself in that go-go-go pattern, what would it feel like if you dared to pause, instead of putting it off until tomorrow? 


What if you stopped to ask your body what it was trying to  communicate in that moment? 


Here’s the truth you may have been ignoring: your body is trying to communicate with you, and it is possible to use that as a professional strategy. 


Learning how to listen to your body can actually guide you toward some of your biggest wins. It can also urge you not to do something in the form of a headache coming on, tightness in your shoulders and neck, or just a general feeling of overwhelm. 


This week, Karlee reconnects us with some powerful body talk with guest Suzi Banks Baum: a woman masterful at interpreting the language of the body. Suzi is a writer and book artist with an admirable devotion to her daily creative practice. Throughout the conversation, Suzi shares how her creative practices help her stay solid even when everything feels chaotic around her, how she learned to cultivate these practices, and how listening to her body’s information has guided her over the years. 


If you find yourself wanting more space for yourself throughout your day, or the room to be creative, or if you’re feeling worried about what the next right step for you is, then this episode is for you. 


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • How Suzi stays solid amidst the chaos of life’s changes (15:42)
  • How to know when it’s time to modify your business (18:36)
  • What body-knowing feels like (21:54)
  • How creative practices help you gain a greater understanding of your interior orientation (36:18)
  • How ritual can help you begin cultivating a creative practice (45:33)
  • How making time for herself helped Suzi take back her freedom and agency (1:04:36)


People  Mentioned in this Episode: 

Nancy Levin

Judy Chicago


Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Episode 32: Curing the Knee-Jerk “Yes” with Nancy Levin

The Dinner Party by Judy Chicago

Camp in a Care Package


Connect with Suzi Banks Baum: 

Website

Instagram


Connect With Karlee: 

Website

LinkedIn

Instagram

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