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Overwhelm Got You Down? Then it’s time to get S.M.A.R.T.S | How to set holistic and sustainable goals in a changing world

Ep. 116

If this particular time in your life and in the world feels a bit overwhelming, well…you’re definitely not the only one.


Our world has felt kinda shaky and uncertain for a while now, and we’re all just here, together, rockin’ along with the boat.


That’s why it’s important to take control where you can. Because one thing we know to be true is there’s only one reliable, infallible, and fool-proof antidote to overwhelm.


When you’re feeling overwhelmed, then that means it’s time to get focused.


And there’s nothing better at bringing more focus into your life than long-term than goal-setting. But, we’re not talking about traditional models of goal-setting…ohhh, no, no.


For a goal to be sustainable, it’s gotta be about what’s realistic for you. It’s got to be specific to the here and now. AND, it needs to be holistic so that it fits into in all areas of your life.


In this episode, Karlee helps you figure out how to cultivate plans that are practical, purposeful, meaningful, and most importantly, how to make them actually work for you. And, even how to make sticking with them enjoyable. If your goals feel like they’re depleting or exhausting you, you’re about to learn a smarter, more realistic way to make sure your goals reach the finish line.


You’ll learn why the antidote to overwhelm when making plans is to get specific, and how to make your goals malleable so they work within the context of your changing life. She shares a modern goal-setting strategy that takes some wisdom from decades past, but rearranges it in order to more effectively meet you here in the current moment, and in our current economy.


If you’re ready to turn your overwhelm into focus and set sustainable goals that work with your life, then this is the episode for you. 


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why being malleable in your form and function is important (1:49)

How to goal-set holistically so you’re supported in all areas of your life  (11:19)

A fresh version of the S.M.A.R.T. goal mapping system (17:29)

Evaluating how realistic your goals are with 3 simple questions (24:32)

How to be malleable if the goal isn’t sustainable (31:21)


People Mentioned in this Episode:

Sophie Weill


Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Episode 113: Building a Stronger Basket

Episode 114: Putting the Self in Success

Episode 115: Want to Be “Enough”? Here’s how women get resourced

The Active Ingredient Podcast with Sophie Weill

Book: The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth about Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and  Jay Papasan

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