Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain


Need an Escape? How to harness the power you already have to bolster the life you want. | With Caroline Castrillon

Ep. 108

If you find yourself in the middle of a story, having to make some decisions because one area of your career or health or relationships is shifting, then this is the episode for you.

As a busy, high-achieving woman in this world, you’re well-accustomed to a tight calendar. As much as you pack into those little boxes, it’s still hard to say “no” when your boss, family, social circle, or anyone else asks you to fit just one more thing in there.

Like an overstuffed suitcase, you just keep trying to squeeze in an extra pair of pants here, another cozy cardigan there…until you have to sit on top of it just to get the zipper closed.

And at the end of every overstuffed month, you ask yourself: “Is this how it’s always gonna feel?

Well, here’s a thought… What if you just said “no”?

What if you took control of your calendar and carved out regular, intentional breathing room…what might that space feel like?

Daring to pause, to be intentional, and to refill your cup isn’t selfish. It’s actually generous.

When you’re able to show up more nourished and rested, you come through in a better headspace and with a fuller heart.  And harnessing that presence and authenticity is one of the most generous things you can do for others, whether it’s your boss, your co-workers, your partner, your friends, or your kids.

In this episode, Karlee welcomes the founder of Corporate Escape Artist, Caroline Castrillon. After 25 years of corporate success in leadership roles with Fortune 500 companies like Dell and Sony, Caroline made the leap towards entrepreneurship. Today, her company helps successful, driven women who are stuck in the daily grind of too much work and helps them carve out more time to pause and find nourishment. She is a contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global and has been featured in publications including the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Inc., and Success Magazine.

Today, you’ll hear what drove Caroline to defect from the always busy corporate career ladder in order to harness more control over her life, and how she’s helping others do the same. She points out the importance of getting comfortable with fear being present when you’re flirting with the idea of change, but you’re afraid to take the leap. She also talks about the importance of cultivating a “no” practice, and how to use that untapped power to redirect your days, months, and ultimately, change the direction of your life.

Or, in Caroline’s own words, how to go from “soul-sucking jobs to career fulfillment”.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The “taboo” things women should be talking more about (7:12)

Why we have to get comfortable with fear and keep moving ahead (9:56)

Recognizing the power you have to direct your life (16:57)

Cultivating a “no” practice (25:09)

The one thing you have to know before making a meaningful transition (34:18)

How gaining clarity over your life shifts your mental state and ripples outward (47:18)

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Article: Castrillon, C. (2021, July 18). This is how to transition from manager to leader. Forbes. Retrieved November 23, 2021

Connect with Caroline Castrillon:

Corporate Escape Artist


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