Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain


Just Thrown A Curveball?! The specifics of how my company builds something new and revamps after our plans are foiled.

Ep. 76

What was the last new thing you began? 

Was it a new job? Did you start your own company? Enter a new relationship? Dig into a new hobby? 

Now, think back to when that fresh idea first came into being...

What did that feel like? 

Did you feel a sudden burst of energy where the skies opened up, or was it more like profuse palm sweating and a healthy dose of fear? Both?

We’ve all been there. And we’re not just saying that. 

Getting off the ground doesn’t have to happen the hard way. And you don’t have to do it alone.  

That’s why this month’s focus has been all about beginnings. 

Because thinking about starting something and actually doing it….well, there’s a lot of work in between. 

And we need to talk about it. 

Having the support and encouragement you need to bring something new into the world comes a whole lot easier when you’ve got people cheering you on from the sidelines. 

We all want to talk to women who can relate. 

In this episode, Karlee welcomes you behind the curtain for an inside look into her most recent “something  new.” The Boundary Academy began as an observation. The concept expanded as more and more research validated that observation. An idea started to take shape, then a plan was hatched. 

Then the plan was foiled. Interrupted. Not exactly falling into place. 

But, rather than letting any of the perceived “setbacks” justify throwing in the towel, she welcomed every curveball that swerved in her direction. 

Most importantly, she took those hints to heart. 

And that made all the difference. 

In today’s culmination episode, you’ll hear the full circle experience of Karlee’s learning process in creating The Boundary Academy. She’s gettin’ real about the excitement, the discouragement, the encouragement, and the ultimate reward when you bring something new into being. You’ll hear poignant wisdom from the women who make up the Council of Boundary Makers (a concept that arose from a curveball). You’ll also find some powerful process insight that just might include that thing you need to hear to keep the flames of your own idea alight.

If you’re ready to listen to the experiences of those who’ve been there and find the support you need to finally get that new idea in motion, then this episode is for you!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • The anatomy of a beginning (7:26) 
  • Three things that worked (13:37)
  • What listening can teach you (17:32)
  • Taking hints from the curveballs (22:26)
  • Welcoming consistent evolution (30:51)
  • Awakening to the possibility of building a network of support (36:31)

People Mentioned in This Episode:

Maria Sirois

Ellen Casey Boyd

Raphaela Kramer

Dana LeMay

Meredith Brisson

Charlyn Reihman

 Suzi Banks Baum

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Maria Sirois Program: What to Remember

Video: The Boundary Brunch

Let’s Host Your Boundary Brunch! Email

Episode 35: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks Baum

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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.  

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Ep. 112
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