Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain


How to Quit What Drains You: 6 Unofficial Roles Women Are Resigning From

Ep. 44

Tell me if this sounds familiar: 

As you go about your workday, your phone is ringing and pinging constantly, someone in your household continuously interrupts your flow, or maybe you’re the go-to person for many people in your life. Your attention gets split in multiple directions, and by the end of the day, you’re left with the leftover crumbs of energy that you need to apply to the work that’s important to you. 

So, how can you shift the ways you spend your energy to take care of the things that are important to you

In this episode, Karlee shares the 6 accidental roles that women take on that are not within your job description and ultimately zap your time and energy. She shares research to reorient the ways you see your role within your family, friend circle, and your work environment, shedding light on how to step away from these unofficial jobs and step into your fullest self. 

Remember: You are not a business in personal liquidation - you are not obligated to sacrifice yourself for others. 

Tune in to learn the rule to help you promote yourself and resign with grace from the unofficial roles you may have taken on. 

In This Episode You Will Learn: 

  • The foundational mindset that allows women to resign from the unofficial jobs that drain them. (7:18)
  • What 6 unofficial roles women do in addition to their actual jobs. (11:57)
  • What it means to be the zookeeper of everyone else’s emotions. (12:14)
  • How boundaries can help you prevent interruptions while you’re getting work done. (13:46)
  • Why being someone’s first-responder may not actually be in their best interest. (18:23)
  • How being “the fixer” may be of disservice to yourself and others. (20:09)
  • How to let go of the expectations that other people place on you. (23:18)
  • How the perceived need for perfectionism may show up in your life. (25:05)
  • How to become the CEO of "Saving My Own Ass Technologies". (28:14)

People I Mention: 

Dr. Valerie Rein

Nancy Levin

Rachel Rodgers

Kris Carr

Resources I Mention: 

Episode 22: Patriarchy Stress Disorder: Removing invisible barriers to your joy and fulfillment with Dr. Valerie Rein

Episode 33: Got Information Overload? How to get clear and sturdy so you can keep rising right now

Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free by Nancy Levin

Hello Seven Podcast with Rachel Rodgers

Study: “The Cost of Interrupted Work: More Speed and Stress”

Mark, G., Gudith, D., & Klocke, U. (2008). The cost of interrupted work. Proceeding of the Twenty-sixth Annual CHI Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems – CHI 08. Doi: 10.1145/1357054.1357072

Study: “Putting a stereotype to the test: The case of gender differences in multitasking costs in task-switching and dual-task situations”

Hirsch, P., Koch, I., & Karbach, J. (2019). Putting a stereotype to the test: the case of gender differences in multitasking costs in task-switching and dual-task situations. Plos One, 14(8). Doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0220150

The Reclaiming Time Studio: Karlee's Private Group for Women That Run Their Own Business Who Are Done With Burnout

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