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Finance F*ckery
Ep. 289
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It has taken over 22 years for Adam and Danielle to be able to have a conversation about the topic of finance without it ending in a fit of rage, resentment, and frustration. For the first time, they can each admit to their mistakes, and the ways they individually and cohesively have contributed to the mistakes they've made, and their negligence concerning preparing for the future. Yes, this is definitely a testament to the progress they've made and the incredible work they've done, but it doesn't change the fact that they'll be feeling the impacts of their poor decisions for years to come. This is a topic that is so seldom discussed by couples in a way that's so public and especially, so honest, that they weren't sure if they should edit some of it out. However, they decided not to touch it. Hopefully, their vulnerability will inspire other couples to have similar conversations, and even learn from Adam and Danielle's mistakes. More specifically, some of the issues they discuss surrounding money and finances in this episode are:
- How differently they grew up regarding money and spending.
- How being a stay-at-home-mom impacted Danielle's ideas about financial decision making within their family.
- The frustration of being the person in charge of buying the daily necessities for the household vs. the frustrations of being the one in charge of paying the bigger bills.
- How "keeping up with the joneses" has impacted them, especially regarding raising kids.
- How honest should we be with our kids about our financial situation?
- What has caused this shift in Danielle's mentality concerning budgeting, and being an active participant in solving their financial issues?
- How our past experiences, as well as expectations about spending/money affects our overall mindset about what we need/want/deserve regardless of whether or not we can afford it.
Stay tuned for part two of this topic, in which we delve even further into these issues and so much more!
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