Marriage and Martinis

In this rollercoaster of an episode, Adam and Danielle get into a REAL conversation about what is still missing in the conversation about body image. Adam is honest about his thoughts on Danielle's weight gain, and the two get down and dirty about why they're both a little petrified for the future. Danielle reveals why she often wonders if she's "broken," and Adam reveals why he's been able to step up in a way he never has before. Plus, Adam hilariously throws Danielle under the bus concerning all of the ridiculous things she did while high, and Danielle calls Adam out on his "conditional love." Plus, what's with all the insane, recent orgasms?

In this follow up episode from Danielle's Boudoir shoot, Adam and Danielle discuss how it felt to finally see the pictures, and how they handled posting pictures that most suburban moms don't reveal to over half a million people. What did Danielle say to her 15 year old son and how did that discussion go? How did she prepare people like her mother-in-law and others whom she was worried might feel uncomfortable with the situation? How did Adam react initially, and what was his ultimate takeaway from the whole experience? Plus, the two discuss:Why is Danielle finally ready to reveal her size when she never has been before?An honest talk about period sex and why it's turned complicated with perimenopause.What negative comments did Danielle receive and how did she respond?How has this whole experience affected her confidence?What did guilt cause Danielle to do in the midst of all of this excitement?What would Adam like them to do as a couple that will even further their connection and sex life?Why was this one of the most memorable experiences Danielle has ever had?don't forget to follow Danielle's new hero @evginiaribinikstudios

Danielle has wanted to work up the courage to have a Boudoir shoot for years. Finally, after finding a photographer she knew she could be comfortable with, she went to have this experience, without informing Adam. In this episode, the two discuss:Why it was important to Danielle to do this without Adam knowing.Why it took so much courage to jump this hurdle and go through with the photoshoot.What Adam is most "concerned" about her posting the pictures.If Adam would be willing to go back and do a couples' shoot.How doing this shoot has affected Danielle's confidence, and more!To find out more about Danielle's amazing photographer, check out Evgenia Ribinik.

Recently, Danielle heard something on Tik Tok that really struck her: "are we all just spending the second half of our lives recovering from the first half?" This got her thinking about all the things we're taught for so long while growing up, only to figure out that all of those messages and concepts are all just a bunch of BS. Are we all too "gaslit" to even know what we, as individuals, even want in life? How can we separate our own goals and desires with those we've been TOLD we should want? In this interestingly nostalgic-yet-eye-opening episode, Adam and Danielle discuss:why weren't they taught more preparedness strategies for life in school, rather than subject matter that has proven to be almost totally obsoletewhy Danielle is no longer looking back on elementary school through rose-colored glasses, and how she thinks the whole experience affected her self-esteemwho the "cool kids" were in school, as opposed to who should have been deemed "cool"what messages were Adam fed about what being a boy means?what messages was Danielle fed about what being a girl means?what did they both get wrong about body image, and what do they now realize?in what ways have movies and TV shows helped in disseminating so many false messagesis chivalry still allowed?and so much more!

Molly had reached her breaking point as an overwhelmed mom and wife when she and her husband decided to open up their marriage back in 2008. In this honest conversation, Danielle asks Molly questions that are on so many people's minds when we think about allowing our partners to be intimate with other humans. Some of these include, how do you handle the intense moments of jealousy that follow knowing your partner has been sexual with someone else? What happened when your kids found out, and how did they react? Were you worried about your parents finding out? And, has the experience been all you hoped it would? Molly's new memoir, "More," takes readers through the journey of becoming polyamorous, and all of the layers, hardships, and joys involved in this process. Luckily, Molly was willing to share some of those stories on the podcast. Hearing these reflections helps us to understand the concept of open marriage from a different, more honest perspective.Buy Molly's book More, A Memoir Of Open Marriage wherever books are sold.If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts and/or on Spotify.

In this not-so-conventional "check-in" episode, Adam and Danielle answer some deep questions about recent lessons on life they've learned, what's something they've each done recently about which they're proud, and a lighting round of quick answers concerning how they're feeling about certain aspects of life. Plus, Danielle introduces Adam to the term, "tradwife," and wants to know if he secretly wishes she was more like one of those wives. Get a pen and paper out, because partners are going to want to write down these questions to ask one another (or anyone in your life with whom you'd like to have a deep conversations). Check out our upcoming, awesome sessions of Beyond Permission, including a discussion on Sex Toys, Libido and Desire, and a DATE NIGHT opportunity with Danielle and Adam!

Lyz Lenz grew up religious, in a household that taught their children that marriage is the only option, and divorce is totally off-limits, with the possible exceptions of infidelity and/or abuse. But 11 years into her own marriage, she knew she couldn't stay, even though the reasons for wanting to leave were different than what she had been taught were valid and acceptable. In her new book "This American Ex-Wife, How I Left My Husband And Started My Life," Lyz intertwines her story with a broader one: that of how the institution of marriage is obviously not working as it exists right now, and why we need to change the narrative on marriage and divorce. In this episode, Danielle and Lyz discuss myth vs. fact when it comes to marriage, divorce, single motherhood, and what "happiness" actually looks like. Plus, what does Lyz want women to know about marriage and divorce that no one else will tell you? And no, she isn't anti relationship, or even marriage. But she is in favor of coming together to figure out what society needs to do to make it be more fulfilling and beneficial for everyone who decides to enter into this union.Purchase Lyz's book wherever books are sold. Follow her on instagram @lyzlenz and subscribe to her Substack.BY POPULAR DEMAND: Check out Danielle's upcoming Beyond Permission sessions. Weren't able to attend the whole weekend of Beyond Permission? We're offering Mini-sessions with all the same topics that are of interest to you! Check out the details and schedule HERE!

In this fun, pre-Valentine's Day episode, Danielle and Adam go head to head in a battle of "Sex trivia." Each of them came up with ten questions revolving around sex and intimacy to try to stump the other. If you've been wanting to know more weird facts about sex, or even basic information we should have learned a long time ago, you'll love this lighthearted challenge to determine whether Adam or Danielle is the master of sex (ed).Valentine's Day is coming! Time to order the Date Night Questions book, and enter code, "MNMPODCAST" for 20% off - our biggest discount anywhere! Want to have it immediately? Download the ebook version and use code, "DATENIGHT" for 15% off.Valentine's Day Digital Download for Couples: Spice up your Valentine’s Day whether you’re staying home or going out. Use Code VAL2024 for 15% Off!

Adam and Danielle continue their conversation about communication by finally going deep into "apologies." They discuss whether or not they heard HEALTHY apologies growing up, whether they remember apologizing to friends, and how apologies (or lack thereof) have affected their relationship over the years. Other things they discuss include:Can a person say "sorry' too often?Should women stop apologizing so much?Do women really apologize more than men?What's the difference between saying sorry and apologizing?How have societal messages about manliness and strength hindered men's ability and turn on women?What does REAL vulnerability look and feel like in a relationship?Why is apology only the first step?What happened in the past few nights that made Danielle feel more connected to Adam than his apologies have?What does a real, genuine apology look like?Valentine's Day Digital Download for Couples: Spice up your Valentine’s Day whether you’re staying home or going out. Use Code VAL2024 for 15% Off!Valentine's Day is coming! There's nothing better to bring and/or give on your special date night than The Date Night Questions Book! Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 20% off! Use code "DATENIGHT" for 15% off the ebook version, and download it immediately!