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Manosphere: Debunked

The 80/20 rule: Do women only date 'up'?

Season 1, Ep. 4

The manosphere would have you believe that women can't escape their 'hypergamous nature' - they always seek out men of higher status as partners. But what if it's more complicated than that? Spoiler alert - it is. Aileen takes Dan on a tour of the rhetoric and the research.


Manosphere: Debunked is hosted by Aileen Barratt (@tindertranslators) and Dan, the anonymous psychologist (@the_nice_ish_psychologist), on Instagram.


Aileen's book, Tinder Translator: An A-Z of Modern Misogyny, is available here.

Visit The Nice-ish Rambling Substack page here.


References from this week's episode:

Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates | Waterstones

Any good dating app stories? #profg #scottgalloway #dating #hinge #tinder #raya #shorts - YouTube

Jordan Peterson - Female Hypergamy and its Impact on Human Evolution - YouTube

Manosphere hypergamy chart: https://twitter.com/RationalMale/status/1050411628406104064?s=20

Dataclysm by Christian Rudder | Waterstones

Aileen’s Instagram post on hypergamy has the Dataclysm chart, view it here:  A deep-ish dive into the the concept of "female hypergamy", which is largely the… | Instagram

Why Are Men in Crisis? | Real Time with Bill Maher (HBO) - Bing video

Fewer Singles among Highly Educated Women. A Gender Reversal of Hypergamy across Cohorts in France | Cairn International Edition (cairn-int.info)

Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows | Reuters

Whither Hypergamy? | Institute for Family Studies (ifstudies.org)

Gender Asymmetry in Educational and Income Assortative Marriage - Qian - 2017 - Journal of Marriage and Family - Wiley Online Library

(PDF) Educational Assortative Mating and the Decline of Hypergamy in 27 European Countries

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