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Why 'How Are You' Fails in Chinese | Bilingual Mandarin Podcast

Ep. 437

Why doesn’t “How are you?” really exist in Chinese?


In this episode, we talk about how Chinese people show care without asking about feelings. Food, warmth, sleep, and daily life matter more than emotional check-ins. We also talk about sleep, anxiety, bilingual kids, accents, affection across cultures, and then completely lose control playing a sound guessing game.

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