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what can we do? || 6: COMBAT POLITICAL VIOLENCE
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Today we're talking about how to combat the common tactics that perpetrators of political violence rely on from the HOPE guide (linked below):
- Combat the cover-up with the Reveal – Expose the injustice.
- Combat devaluation + Redeem – Validate the target.
- Combat reinterpretation + Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.
- Combat official channels + Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.
- Combat intimidation or rewards + Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.
RESOURCES:
The Free HOPE-PV Guide to ending Political Violence: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/guide
What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/
Daniel Hunter's Analysis on Staying Grounded: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/?utm_source=Climate+Advocacy+Lab+Members&utm_campaign=8cf646d623-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2025_01_22_04_22&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-8cf646d623-547145900
Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews
Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/
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