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what can we do? || 3: PICK A LANE

Things are chaotic (by design) so after we start to rebuild internal trust + social trust, we can start to address our own needs, and eventually our community's. Develop boundaries, coping skills, resilience strategies. Grieve, learn to accept reality + then address what is within your control. From there, you can pick a lane.


When we try to do too much, we get overwhelmed and don't accomplish half the stuff we could accomplish if we had just picked ONE thing to work on at a time.


HOW TO RESIST THE COUP?


  1. Build Internal Trust
  2. Build Social Trust
  3. Grieve, Accept, Build Resilience
  4. Identify your locus of control
  5. Pick a lane:

a. Protect People

b. Defend Civic Institutions

c. Disrupt + Disobey

d. Build Alternatives


The sources:


What can I do to resist the coup? https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/


Grounding yourself in a chaotic time: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/?utm_source=Climate+Advocacy+Lab+Members&utm_campaign=8cf646d623-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2025_01_22_04_22&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-8cf646d623-547145900


CIVIL DISOBEDIENCE BOOK: https://www.ericachenoweth.com/research/wcrw


COMMUNITY PRACTICE: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sdKeqajKC5X7tyhowqRTYgMRHelIwo9T5cTzCT0i1b8/edit?tab=t.0


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