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We MUST start prioritizing people over profits, but systemic changes are huge (and uncomfortable) however necessary bc the way it is now is uncomfortable unfair, unsustainable. 


It starts with imagination, because the people in charge of what we see and consume have a vested interest in keeping the status quo. So, it’s hard to imagine a future not dictated over growth/profits over it’s people. 


Laziness is a capitalist myth, made to make us feel shame for not producing capital or profits in a society that depends on it. 


We need to reframe our relationship with productivity so we can reassess what work is actually important. 


We pitch business ideas to friends, we ask kids what they’ll be when they grow up, we focus our identity around our work, CEO’s install nap pods and bars so you never need to leave work, we idealize gig economy and call it freedom but freelancing is, in practice, a24 hour a day job. 


Our relationship with work is toxic. 

We’re producing more, commuting further, retiring later, striking/unionizing less, laboring harder, and earning less. Corporate profits are at an all time high but we are at a cost of living crisis nearly double the one that spurred the French revolution. 


Digital tech could’ve helped us become more free, but under the current system - it’s becoming increasingly invasive and enforcing labor “from anywhere” instead of just at work. 


Our identity will change, because we identify with work at the moment, but we have to stop prioritizing it. 


Work doesn’t work. It hasn’t for a while. It doesn’t provide for people. A majority of those living in poverty are working families. 


Most of our jobs are not only unnecessary but they’re actively damaging.


It’s not our fault for working these jobs, but just because we were born into a shitty today, it doesn’t mean we cant work together to make a more proactive and inclusive tomorrow. But in my experience we have to be willing to admit when we’re part of the problem without feeling shame - so we can fix it, rather than avoid it like we have been for so long. 


RESOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs


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