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27. Get comfortable in silence. Learn when it’s time to mind your business and when it’s time to speak your mind. You’re allowed to take up space but you’re also allowed to sit back and cease to be perceived.
28. Every single human just wants to feel seen, valued, and loved. Be kind. Be open. Focus on the little moments with people + really listen. That said. Not all people deserves all access to you. You’re allowed to be private. You’re allowed to overshare but you’re also allowed to be private and say shit like “im not comfortable discussing that” or simply “no”
29. Social media is a tool. It’s also a manipulative marketing addiction machine. Be careful with it. Set boundaries and check in with your emotions during and after your usage.
30. Future you appreciates your attention, thoughtfulness, and love more than anyone. Intentionally show yourself the same kindness and attention you show to the people you care most about.
31. The way we treat others is a direct reflection of our internal wellbeing. We tend to project insecurities by identifying things we dislike in others in a way to protect ourselves against what we’ve done to those unhealed or repressed part of ourselves. Same goes for everyone else. Take the time to practice responding with mindfulness rather than reacting with impulse - despite the validity of your reaction, it’s better to approach with less emotion than to regret actions or words that can directly affect the people we’re interacting with.
32. Take care of yourself - parent yourself like a well-loved toddler until you’re confident enough to understand life is a series of ups and downs. Love on yourself with wreckless abandon because at the end of the day - real happiness, contentment, life satisfaction, etc. is an inside job. You’re the only one who knows the key to your magic, luckily you’ve got a lifetime to discover it.
33.Everything we do is rooted in fear or love. Choose love every time.
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