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Day 11 || Rabbit Holes
(REMASTERED in August 2023) Day 11 - You may feel isolated but you are never alone.
If you’re the type to self isolate? Or find yourself genuinely lonely? You may also be the type to chase yourself down deeper and deeper rabbit holes that only leave you more isolated from the community (and world) above. But look around. No matter how deep you are? You are never alone. It may be dark, but every rabbit hole has rabbits and yours is no different. If you show a little vulnerability and genuinely call out in the right direction in search of help, you’ll always find a pathway towards it, even if it means running into the other lil bun buns that are in the same type of hole as you.
It’s easier to find the light when you’re not alone, and even when it doesn't feel like it - you’re never alone. Just remember to keep finding more rabbits, and not to rely on the first ones you see, because our eyes will take time to adjust to the real world and it’s tough enough to return to our normal ‘den’ after a dip in the rabbit hole.
The human experience can be isolating AF but every emotion has been felt and survived before, under the same sky that you have felt it impossible to explain. Give yourself space + time to feel shit. Not with shame or guilt. And not passively. Allow yourself the space and grace it takes to let emotions join you instead of resisting them, which tends to make us run from them into our lil hidey holes that make us feel that way to begin with.
Life is about experiencing. It’s about feeling. And if you need a break from those things, take breaks and get outside of your mind by getting into your body. Break a sweat/take a cold dip or a warm bath/dance/jiggle/tap/volunteer/sing/call/help/connect/ your way into a more well-rounded worldview that isn’t shrouded by your rabbit hole of darkness that sometimes comes with us, even after we’ve climbed out. The world is a big and beautiful place and way to remind yourself of your value in it is to get out into it. Call a loved one, help a neighbor, find a community volunteer opportunity, start a lil garden, throw paint on a wall, do anything to remind yourself you’re not a rabbit. You’re a badass. And no matter how much it may feel otherwise, at times, you are never alone.
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