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Day 142 || Intersectionality
Social activist Suad Abdul Khabeer said on Twitter, “You don’t have to be the voice for the voiceless, just pass the mic.” So today, I want to pass the mic to some queer, BIPOC voices that have made an incredible impact on my understanding of this concept.
I wanted to start with Intersectionality matters - is a podcast hosted by Kimberlé Crenshaw, an American civil rights advocate and a leading scholar of critical race theory.
Next I wanted to highlight, Sessions with my therapists - podcast about two dope Black women who found healing and happiness through therapy. Angela is queer and they’re both so open and comfortable it’s like listening in on a friend’s conversation.
The podcast Nancy is also really dope - Queer, Asian Americans Kathy Tu and Tobin Low share really great, personal stories and have some really cool guests on there.
The Queer Arabs podcast is a growing collection of dialogues surrounding the intersection of Middle Eastern/Southwest Asian + North African and LGBTQ identities. Recording in English and Arabic, with hosts based in the US and guests based all over, the podcast highlights queer artists, activists, and others who speak on behalf of racial justice, gender liberation, and sex positivity.
Food 4 Thot A roundtable discussion podcast wherein a multiracial mix of queer writers talk sex, relationships, race, identity, what they like to read, and who they like to read. The red nation podcast The Red Nation Podcast features discussions on Indigenous history, politics, and culture from a left perspective. QueerWOC is a space for queer women and folks of color rooted in reimagining healing, organizing, and community.
These podcasts are just a few examples of incredible content presented by Black, Indigenous, People of Color. If you have any other media or content suggested by voices that you believe deserve the spotlight, please don’t hesitate to reach out and share those with me so I can feature them on our Instagram.
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1832 || awe vs. focus
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1831 || strategic anticipation
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1830 || curse of knowledge
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1829 || avoiding disappointment in relationships
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1828 || the thinking trap
12:22|A policeman sees a drunk man searching for something under a streetlight and asks what the drunk has lost. He says he lost his keys and they both look under the streetlight together. After a few minutes the policeman asks if he is sure he lost them here, and the drunk replies, no, and that he lost them in the park. The policeman asks why he is searching here, and the drunk replies, "this is where the light is". THE SOURCES:https://psychology-spot.com/cognitive-miser-definition/https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_miserhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streetlight_effectRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
1827 || cognitive misers
09:51|the human brain doesn't prefer to expend extra cognitive effort, it will always take a shortcut, where possible. the less you analyze this reality, the more likely you are to fall into "cognitive laziness" which can reinforce stereotypes and keep us trapped in limiting world views. THE SOURCES: https://psychology-spot.com/cognitive-miser-definition/https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_miserRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
1826 || how to forgive (what the science says)
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