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499 || how to access those fundamental rights
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MAYDAY HEALTH a registered health education nonprofit. Mission to share information about how to access abortion medication in all fifty states. 1. Create mail forwarding address in state with progressive abortion rights. This is typically less than $30. You can do this through iPostal.com, choose a state like Colorado or Illinois that protects abortion rights + choose a local city within it. At checkout, provide contact info + they basically give you a remote private mailing address + you'll receive instructions for how to upload the single page USPS form 1583 that authorizes your NEW address to forward and receive mail on our behalf. Requires a brief online notary call. Anytimemailbox and postscanmail.com are other options mayday health has instructions for on their website linked in comments.
Using your new mail forwarding address make an appointment + request pills online with a telehealht visit bc they can typically deliver to any address in states where they operate INCLUDING mail forwarding addresses that can forward that medicine to other states. Financial aid options often available but the cost is usually under $300.
2. Sign up online for an abortion clinic with that new mail forwarding address. Hey Jane offers services in Cali, NY, WA, IL, CO, NM. Carafem in CO, CT, DE, GA, IL, IA, MD, MA, NV, NJ, NM, RI, VT, VA or Choix or Just the Pill are IL, CO, CA. 3. Consult with that telehealth medical provider 4. Receive your unmarked package at your address within five days. 5. Take pills.
They’re not plan b - usually mifepristone or pisoprostol = works thorough end of the FIRST trimester (11 weeks) and been FDA approved for decades, leads to LESS hospitalizations than tylenol does.
Abortion pills are safe, effective, common, private. 99% of patients have no severe side effects. According to studies they are 98% effective at ending pregnancies during the first trimester. Used in over 54% of the abortions across the US. and some European countries over 90% are done using pills. It’s been used by MILLIONS around the world for the past 30 years.
If you need support to self manage you can call or text the miscarraige + abortion hotline at 1-833-246-2632 available 8 am to 11 pm in all continental us time zones + typically can respond within an hour. These are always confidential, they dont ask for names, details, or health identifiers. Phones + texts are private + secure according to their site.
REPRO LEGAL HELPLINE which provides free and confidential legal advice that can help people better understand the laws and legal risk they may face. Contact them by calling 844-868-2812 and leaving a message for them to return or online through their secure online form at reprolegalhelpline.org regardless of immigration status.
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